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[W2L]

I struggle with emotional battles much like you describe. Its very difficult. The only answer i know of is to avoid things that make you feel this way, and most importantly wait on the Lord as David teaches. Waiting is hard but its the only logical answer that i have found. As far as religion goes, i keep things simple, no denomination for me. Of course others dont always agree so there is still friction.

 

[drjean]

Avoid and ignore to an extent but we must forge ahead to learn to deal with confrontation. For me, it stems from a control issue (which is why I can so easily recognize it in others) though I can control that sometimes it's beyond me... especially when it's things about God and Christ and Christianity that are "set in gold" so to speak--- or as I put it NON NEGOTIABLE!

Spending more time with those who agree, like faith here, fellowship helps me. Praying for and leaving alone those discussions where others refuse to even acknowledge there might be another view helps as well.

For me also, knowing INSIDE, this urgency because time is short, makes some things more critical for "straightening out" and of course, that is often above my "pay scale" as a Christian---God will have to deal with those.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[JAM2b]

I'm saying this in the kindest way possible...

Your post seems to just be venting, but at the bottom you ask a question about what to do. I'd like to talk to you, but I don't know if you want people to answer that question, and to be honest, you are triggered so easily, I'm almost afraid to interact with you on here anymore because you get upset so easily and don't seem to be able to let it go. I'm not into pushing people's buttons.

If you want my two cents, I don't mind giving it. But I'm am old mama who started raising kids 28 years ago, and I'm direct. It comes off as rude sometimes, but I'm really just not that much into fluffing it up because it wastes time and distracts from the point. I truly am a very kind and caring person, and people often view me as a pushover and someone who is too sweet. Usually everything that comes out of my mouth is spoken softly and gently, like a stereotypical Southern woman. You can't hear that through a screen though.

So, if you give me the go-ahead, I'll respond. But if you're going to be upset, then I'll just pretend this thread didn't happen.

 

[MehGuy]

I am the opposite. I love conflict and feel empty when I go long periods without it. Although these last few weeks I've been trying to avoid it. It really isn't fair to those who do not like it. Plus even among those who like drama I tend to go even too far with them.

Life and interacting with others can be hard when some people perceive things so differently.

 

[Sam91]

Hi there Multifavs.

My favourite verse from scripture might help you here. Remind yourself when you get distressed this.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding,
In all your ways follow Him,
And He will direct your paths" Proverbs 3:5-6

I also try to remind myself that there is a lot more that we agree on than disagree. That we are all God's children and when faced with someone who isn't a Christian who is mocking Christianity these brothers/sister would stand right beside you, on the same side..

I like to think that if someone disagrees with me, we can still feel kindly towards each other and keep the disagreement just about the way we interpret scripture. I had a pleasant surprise when I pm'd one person a couple of days ago to point this out. I had a pleasant surprise when I spoke to someone else about a different disagreement. I think that might be the way to go for me. If you are tactful, which you seem to be, it might work for you too. Afterall, you can leave conversations/report etc/ ignore future responses. (Of course I never attach blame on the other person, or make them responsible for my feelings. That only breeds contention and makes someone defensive and argumentative. I think of the proverb 'A gentle word turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger') That is for your own discretion if you are up to it or not.

Hope you feel better soon. Philippians 4:8

 

[Sam91]

PS: i reread and saw you are praying for these people. Great move! Don't give up praying for them. Prayer works and miracles happen. Sometimes it is delayed because God might be using someone else to do it.

See your time here as practise with managing difficult relations and peacekeeping skills. Blessed are the peacemakers...

I do like seeing your posts, I don't see them often though. Find a friendly place too. I personally have a couple of people's blogs that I go to because they post uplifting things, praising God and words of comfort, encouragement straight from scripture. I like to see another user pressing like on those and she always does.

I like to hangout in the rec room too. Come hang out with me there one time.

Good night. God bless.

 

[timewerx]

I guess I've been holding this inside for a while, but I've gotta let it out before it drives me crazy.

I just can't seem to deal with disagreements, especially on certain beliefs and opinions that are brought up often enough. If I know someone disagrees with me I sometimes feel upset. Whenever one of them brings it up I get very frustrated and distressed, and I spend hours that day practically stressing out about how much I can't understand them.

I can't get it off my mind when I get into one of those moods. Sometimes I wonder how I can possibly be friends with people who disagree with me so much, but I continue to do my best to be kind and helpful towards them still. Sometimes I strongly want to say something about it but I'm afraid of destroying our friendship.

This has been bothering me off and on since around October last year, but I felt this way a little right before I joined CF. In fact, the reason I left another site and joined CF was because of this very problem, but I'm not doing any better with CF.

There. I said it. I hope I didn't hurt anyone with this post, but I'm tired of holding my feelings inside. I just wish I didn't feel this way; I just want everyone to be happy and to follow the truth and Light. I pray for people, but sometimes I feel like giving up because it would take a miracle for them to change. Sometimes I think I'd be better off spending my online time on sites where I don't talk to anyone, like I used to years ago. I just seem to be an emotionally weak person, and I can't control my emotions. What am I to do?

(Please remember that I do have faith and trust in God. I just needed to vent.)

I'm sorry to hear. That hurts, I know.

The only way to not feel so bad about this is that you have friends and family who does not disagree and shoot down your beliefs all the time.

It's hard to live when everyone disagrees with you, even people around you in real life.

 

[Swan7]

Hey Multi-paws

I think it might be troubling you so much because you can't accept the disagreements? I could be totally off base with that assumption. I mean, we all got problems (I know I do), but we just gotta get through it with God because He's our strong man where we are totally weak. You'll be in my prayers!

 

[name_is_irrelevant]

If I know someone disagrees with me I sometimes feel upset. Whenever one of them brings it up I get very frustrated and distressed, and I spend hours that day practically stressing out about how much I can't understand them.

Yeah this is why I avoid discussing politics online (or in general), just spend hours in stupid debates with people until everyone's raging at each other. It's human nature to get defensive when someone question's your beliefs, particularly if you've based your identity and worldview around them. No one wants their world to collapse.