Ok, so I must have read another person's statement much earlier then , sorry. I'm going to go back and see if I can find that statement to see who it was.
God Bless
Jim Larmore
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No, you're thinking of another victim's statement. There WAS contact in my case.
First of all, I am truly sorry that you suffered abuse as a child. It is a horrible thing that no one should have to go through.dclem, I have also been sexually abused as a little girl and I am not a counselor. Nor did I ever go to a counselor about it.
It didn't take me months and months to get over it. When I became an adult and gave my heart to God, a lot of healing happened right then and there. I forgave my assailant and went on with my life.
There is a time to forgive and let God take care of it. He knows just how to deal with abusers. And if they don't pay for their crimes in this life, they most certainly will eventually because judgment will come.
\I am also very happy for you that you have been able to get over it as you have. I have forgiven Tommy as well. However, I stayed silent for years and others were abused. That's my fault.
PB how long do you think it took? You have no idea what my age was when I was abused. Go figure....Rosie55,
You said it didn't take months and months to get over the sexual abuse you experienced as a child and yet you said that, as an adult, when you gave your heart to God a lot of your healing took place right then. Do you realized that it was years and years from the time you were abused until you became and adult and forgave?
I share much the same experience for it wasn't until I began a real relationship with our Lord that I was able to forgive and truly begin to start healing. Two of my abusers were dead before I reached my adult years so it was a lot easier to place the abuse in God's hands.
However, there is a huge difference between forgiveness of the abuser and silence about the abuse. If you went on with your life after forgiving the abuser without speaking out to ensure that no other child would become a victim, in my opinion you are still under his control to a degree.
Jim,
It doesn't hurt to be kind.
Reason for ASI’s Withdrawal
ASI’s decision to withdraw was not based on the merits of the divorce and remarriage issues or any of the other issues we were urged to consider. ASI’s decision was based solely on the barriers we encountered in attempting to reach agreement between the parties on a process whereby the commission would study the issues.
ASI’s Initial Considerations
ASI believed it could develop a process that would be fair to all parties, utilizing a panel of ASI members selected for their spirituality, fairness and intelligence. The parties would be chosen through a panel selection process.
ASI proposed a process to assure a fair due process to all concerned.
ASI believed it was essential that it have the active involvement of all parties in this process.
Danny and 3ABN Accept
By December 10, 2006, Danny Shelton (afterward referred to as Danny) and 3ABN had accepted the process proposed by ASI.
Unexpected Barriers
Linda [formerly Mrs. Danny Shelton] (afterward referred to as Linda) did not participate personally in discussions to develop an agreed upon process.
Linda identified Gaylon Arthur Joy (afterward referred to as Joy) as her representative. Joy, in turn, introduced Bob Pickle (afterward referred to as Pickle) and Greg Matthews (afterward referred to as Matthews) as his team members.
Linda’s team:
Did not accept that ASI was capable of providing a fair forum to decide the issues
Insisted on including issues involving allegations of mismanagement and corporate misconduct at 3ABN
Would not accept the ground rules for the panel’s procedures
Would not cease harassing e-mail contact with Danny or other 3ABN representatives
Would not cease, when requested to do so, circulating distracting comments about the process under discussion with ASI
We never learned whether Linda approved of the positions asserted by her team. At no time did Linda respond except to say that Joy would be her representative.
quote=Pickle;33448798On April 27, 2004, Danny emphatically stated to someone who was not his wife (by his definition I believe this constituted "spiritual adultery") that his marriage was over because Linda had hidden his gun
It's no one's call but mine about whether I need counselling.\
Your decision to stay silent for those years does not make you culpable for the other abuses. If you truely believe that then you are in need of some councelling. Sorry but I call it like I see it.
God Bless
Jim Larmore
Notice that I did not say that her hiding his gun was a "basis" for the divorce, but rather than Danny said that their marriage was over because she hid his gun. And I still think that is an accurate summary of what he said.I found this in post #236
This is what I am talking about Mr. Pickle.
God Bless
Jim Larmore
Notice that I did not say that her hiding his gun was a "basis" for the divorce, but rather than Danny said that their marriage was over because she hid his gun. And I still think that is an accurate summary of what he said.
Do not worry about the last 48 hours.
This issue has been going on now for about 12 months and still after all that time not one issue has been settled at all.
Tommy has been send to "coventry" by most people.
We have no idea of what is true and what is false.
But the acussers keep it going and all of us have to keep putting up with it.
Well sorry pal, that is not a good enough answer.
There are so many of these alleged victims and now you are trying to tell me that after about 12 months not opne of them will step up to the plate and make an official complaint.
I doubt if that is the case.
Tell me, what is in it for you as you seem to be on a one man whitch hunt against 3ABN.
Come clean and tell us why you are so involved.
I have nothing at all to do with 3ABN and have no maxe to grind one way or another.
So what is your involvment in trying to bring 3ABN down.
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