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tomatoe

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My understanding is that that is not how the allegations in Virginia came to light.

Well then, you would be wrong. There were no allegations of any kind until Dryden came there to pastor. I know someone on the church board. That would be first hand information. The last time she was contacted Dryden had yet to name any names or prove anything from anyone.
 
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Not really, just means the person might have been clueless to the situation. Just becaue taht one man didnt' know, doesn't mean there was no "dirt". I am with PP, if he got one report of this type of abuse, he needed to investigate it.

There was no allegations whatsoever in DunLoring...until Dryden came there. He was the one that said there were allegations and that is after he went around trying to find dirt where there wasn't any. No allegations were made when he came there. As stated previous, I know someone on the church board there. They are aware that he went looking for something when no claims at all had been made and even that same church board has not been given any names after all of this time. In other words, Dryden had big statements to make but then never produced the people he said were making these claims, nor did he even produce names.
 
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My friend just called back and said he is certain he isn't ordained yet, and he thought that he wasn't on full salary, but when I pressed him on that, he wasn't absolutely certain.

I thought that the number and size of the churches might help us to know if Ronnie was on full salary or not. But if you'd rather not answer, that's fine.
 
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There was no allegations whatsoever in DunLoring...until Dryden came there.
Seems to me there was something before Dryden got there, but the details on that haven't been clear to me.

But we should be clear that even if Dryden cooked up everything in Dunn Loring, we still have allegations in Illinois spanning a number of years, totally unrelated to Dryden, with names that are known, and testimony that agrees as to what Tommy would allegedly say to the ones he was trying to victimize.

Plus we also have an eye witness account of a lady that says she caught Tommy in a house with a boy. It wasn't even Tommy's house.

And we also have an eye witness that has Danny in Tommy's presence when an alleged victim and his parents were coming to return a car. Thus we have an eye witness that testifies that Danny knew about the allegations around 1985.

Plus we have a witness who claims that Danny told them that Tommy had approached Danny himself.

Plus we have another relative, a male, that claims that Tommy approached him too.

Given all of this, whatever allegations there are in Dunn Loring are the more credible. And two of those three or four allegations are coming from individuals who were adults at the time.

Given all of this, it is totally inexcusable for Walt to still not have contacted any of the alleged victims to get their side of the story, and then to maintain that he did an adequate investigation. I just can't fathom why he has dealt with this situation this way.
 
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This would all be great, Tomatoe if we didn't have victims statements, and EVERYONE agreed that something inappropriate happened. His credentials were snatched for a reason. Not just becaue he lost the Dryden popularity contest. You and your friends are just trying to keep it from being criminal. You admit something happened, but you maintain they were "consenting" relationships. So Dryden didnt' make up stuff out of the thin air. Something DID happen! TS approached young and boys for sex. Consenting or not(I believe not) he was abusing his position of authority as a re pastor and an he is an adulterer, at the very least, child molester worse case( which by the victims statements is the case).

 
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saying somebody and something at sometime; isn't any kind of productive conclusion.
 
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i believe icedragon is a cold, scaly dragon. are you saying he is not? ;~(
 
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If Dryden had even heard of what had happened in Illinois, he had a pastoral responsibility to ask questions. It is also possible that someone, or more, told Dryden what had happened when he arrived. People in an abusive situation seldom trust those in authority who surround and share authority with the abuser. It is likely that they would not want to share what had happened with their abuser's church board for fear of the reaction that too many have endured: suspicion and abuse from their church.

Fear of derision and further abuse from family, friends, church and community is one of the major factors in keeping abuse victims silent. It compounds their despair, and when they see their worst fears carried out against others who have been bold enough to come forward, their resolve to remain silent and let the abuser continue his/her actions is further solidified. This in turn is a major factor in the proliferation of abuse.
 
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saying somebody and something at sometime; isn't any kind of productive conclusion.

And remember Truth Magnet, Tomatoe made it quite clear several days ago how he feels about answering questions and that:

I am satisfied with what I know and how I know it. I do not feel obligated in anyway to provide the answers of how or why I have that information.
It seems to me that this attitude makes having any adult conversation with Tomatoe impossible
 
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i believe icedragon is a cold, scaly dragon. are you saying he is not? ;~(
cold and scaly, never thought of my self that way? Actually my name was taken from a jacket of the same name. the idea of the icedragon is that unlike conventional fire breathing dragons, this dragon ice breating dragon. you will be turned to ice instead of ash if he breaths on you.
 
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Good morning to you Steffan

You have posted repeatedly concerning certain findings in the tax case. Could you answer a question for me?

Is your only knowledge of this matter reading ALJ Rowe's decision or have you discussed it with anyone that was there during the hearing or from 3abn?
 
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It would be inexcusable for a pastor who finds allegations of abuse NOT to ask around. That would be the height of pastoral irresponsibility.
Agreed, but then he should have turned it over to the proper authorities, not take it upon himself to have meetings and send out letters.
 
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This has been my point from the beginning. Glenn Dryden has a history of getting in everyone's business. Furthermore, the list of suggested "action items" he wrote up absolutely infuriates me every time I read it. Who is he to make up such a list? He doesn't have a clue what the victims need as far as closure is concerned.

That being said, Tommy Shelton IS guilty of sexual abuse.
 
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Agreed, but then he should have turned it over to the proper authorities, not take it upon himself to have meetings and send out letters.

Yes, and he is legally bound to do so by most state laws (perhaps all, not sure on every state).
 
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Agreed, but then he should have turned it over to the proper authorities, not take it upon himself to have meetings and send out letters.
Duane, that would only be for allegations that concerned minors, correct? The ones involving adults would have to be handled in house, correct?
 
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Duane, that would only be for allegations that concerned minors, correct? The ones involving adults would have to be handled in house, correct?
Pickle,
This is something that has concerned me for quite some time. Why didn't Dryden report the allegations of abuse against minors to the authorities? Dryden's 2003 letter clearly states, first that "Constrained by an ethical, if not legal, obligation..." (showing that he understood his duty in his capacity as a pastor) and second, that "At least six boys in our community were sexually abused..." Is it possible that these boys and their families didn't want the matter to become public? Would that release Dryden from responsibility to report the allegations?
 
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