30+ and single and loving it!

[JPPT1974]

I love being single and that
I really enjoy my freedom a lot
Also from being indepedent as well!
But that is just IMO!

 

[HoosierCanuck]

And everyone is different - some people really don't like much physical affection. One of my love languages is "touch", the other is "words of affirmation". I don't know many guys that are like that! But strangely enough, I can't find many females to match me - the stereotype says that girls like being cuddled and talking with a guy. Go figure?

I don't know my 'love languages' (mainly because I'm too embarassed to buy a book with the word 'love' in the title ) but I would guess based on knowledge of myself that mine are similar to what you've described here. cuddled and talking.....sounds like a nice, relaxing evening to me. Sounds like a dream that will likely never come true either.

 

[brizyboy]

The Five Love Languages is not a silver bullet, but can be a useful paradigm / tool / way of looking at how you need to be shown love in a relationship. And just as importantly, it can help identify how someone else needs to be shown love.

re: buying the book - use Amazon.com Or check out a website on love languages (for FREE!!!)

Wouldn't it be better to be ready in case your dream DOES come true?

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Wouldn't it be better to be ready in case your dream DOES come true?

HC finding someone to love her on earth=

The Cubs Winning to the World Series
The Canucks winning the Stanley Cup
The Colts winning the Super Bowl


In other words.....season after season I can pretend that 'this is the year' only to have my heart broken over and over again.

Thanks for the suggestion though. I know you mean well.

 

[esseJ]

HC finding someone to love her on earth=

The Cubs Winning to the World Series
The Canucks winning the Stanley Cup
The Colts winning the Super Bowl

Wow! it can't possibly THAT bad...at least you don't have Dusty Baker giving you relationship advice...

 

[JPPT1974]

Being single and freedom
Meaning doing what you
Love to do without being
Told what to do!

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Wow! it can't possibly THAT bad...at least you don't have Dusty Baker giving you relationship advice...

LOL I fired Dusty...that's how he got the Cubs job! hahahaha

I forgot to add that the three Sports Miracles would also have to happen IN THE SAME YEAR!!!

Yeah...in my mind and/or heart....it's really that bad.

If someone DOES show interest, I find a way to scare them off or I realize that they have even more issues than I do . I have been kind of attracted to two people this year (that's twice the norm! lol) and one turned out to be gay and the other is far away and I think I've said enough stuff to make him want to avoid me like the plague. The second one is kind of a bummer cuz we have a lot in common as far as interests.

 

[brizyboy]

If someone DOES show interest, I find a way to scare them off or I realize that they have even more issues than I do .

Maybe you should change your perfume from the "most effective man repellant on the market"
To quote Hugh Grant: "Well that's just silly. Have you MET everyone else on the market?"

God bless!

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Maybe you should change your perfume from the "most effective man repellant on the market"
To quote Hugh Grant: "Well that's just silly. Have you MET everyone else on the market?"

God bless!

I've thought about it but haven't found a brand I agree with yet. lol Got any ideas?

The market....around here (where I live, not CF!) it looks like a day-old rummage sale....anything remotely good has been taken, what's left is the picked over garbage that should have been thrown out instead of sold.

 

[brizyboy]

I've thought about it but haven't found a brand I agree with yet. lol Got any ideas?

The market....around here (where I live, not CF!) it looks like a day-old rummage sale....anything remotely good has been taken, what's left is the picked over garbage that should have been thrown out instead of sold.

ROFL - what fantastic prospects!
How about "Fantastic Fox - The Most Effective Man Attractant on the Market". Just make sure you don't overdo it - it can smell like "Tramp Vamp - The EASIEST Man Attractant on the Market"

Have you thought about taking your booty and going somewhere else? The world awaits...

I have toyed with the idea. Couldn't pay me enough to move to Sydney . Melbourne? London? Ahhh - Bayern! Distance might also alleviate some other irritants too.


~aside~ PS: can someone translate booty for me? Trying to avoid a faux pas

 

[HoosierCanuck]

ROFL - what fantastic prospects!
How about "Fantastic Fox - The Most Effective Man Attractant on the Market". Just make sure you don't overdo it - it can smell like "Tramp Vamp - The EASIEST Man Attractant on the Market"

Have you thought about taking your booty and going somewhere else? The world awaits...

I have toyed with the idea. Couldn't pay me enough to move to Sydney . Melbourne? London? Ahhh - Bayern! Distance might also alleviate some other irritants too.


~aside~ PS: can someone translate booty for me? Trying to avoid a faux pas

brizyboy, you're too kind (and funny!)

I think my ex roommate used Tramp Vamp! hahaha

I dunno...the others might sound too arrogant and intimidate my peers. lol Yeah, I take being humble to a ridiculous extreme.

Oh yeah....I think OFTEN of taking my booty elsewhere (and the rest of my body too! ). I'm not sure what I can afford right now though. I have to be patient.....and that ain't easy for me to do. I'm looking into some other career options that may allow me to escape the shackles of Indiana. It will probably mean more schooling and (gulp!) more student loan debt.

Well, I think of the word 'booty' as my backside or 'bum'. lol

 

[brizyboy]

Well, I think of the word 'booty' as my backside or 'bum'. lol

Ok. I can equate those words.

~kids, look away~ Word of warning HC - don't talk about your "fanny" if you come to Australia. Boys don't have them (if you get my drift). I gave the Security guard at the airport in Dallas a very strange look when he asked to see my fanny bag.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Ok. I can equate those words.

~kids, look away~ Word of warning HC - don't talk about your "fanny" if you come to Australia. Boys don't have them (if you get my drift). I gave the Security guard at the airport in Dallas a very strange look when he asked to see my fanny bag.

TOO FUNNY!!! I see a scene from a comedy being played out here. I wonder if Paul Hogan ever tried to incorporate that in "Crocodile Dundee" but couldn't figure out how? lol

Y'know....my mum told me that she would pay for me visit Australia if I got my college degree. I graduated in 1998....I think she's a little overdue. lol I would LOVE to visit there. It's so beautiful in pictures.

 

[brizyboy]

I would LOVE to visit there. It's so beautiful in pictures.

Yeah, well they don't show you the crappy bits That's why when you see Sydney, they only ever show the Harbour, the bridge and the Opera House.

In that respect its like England (or anywhere really I guess). Miles of ho-hum, dotted with bits of "Wow!". A friend from Germany told me how she was going to drive to Ayer's Rock from Brisbane in a day (to make it easy for you - that's about mid-way from LA to NY).

 

[HoosierCanuck]

good point. I could probably come up with pretty pictures in Indiana if I try hard enough. lol Actually, we have a few state parks that I really like....one is sand dunes along Lake Michigan (I LOVE THAT ONE!!!) and the other is at the opposite end of the state and is best visited in the fall when the leaves are turning colours. It's really pretty. I get to stay there for work 3 times a year (perk of the job, I reckon)

 

[brizyboy]

I've thought about it but haven't found a brand I agree with yet. lol Got any ideas?

I see you've found something different

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I see you've found something different

You like? It seems to fit the theme of this month for me. lol

 

[brizyboy]

You like? It seems to fit the theme of this month for me. lol

Yes, well aren't we all? I'm told that I'm from Mars, and that you are from Venus.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

yea...something like that. Reminds me of the song by the Christian group Skillet. The song is called Alien Youth (okay, so I'm not a youth anymore unless you divide my age in half and say I'm 18 for the second time! haha)

What is it Spock said? Live Wrong and Perspire??? No wait....Live Long and Prosper. Yeah...that's it. whew!!! talk about faux pas!! hahahahahahaa

 

[edenvegan]

I don't know if we're still talking about single at 30-something, but I just wanted to say it'd be a whole lot easier to be single if I was living in L.A. (That seems to be "single city.")

In the American Christian community, at least I think, there is direct and indirect pressure to get hitched. Then everybody's divorced by 40-something--well not everyone but a lot. What does that say?

As long as I have guy friends along with my girlfriends I'll be fine!