Childfree

Married, but no kids for us. Kids are too expensive and stressful to handle

You know I've had this struggle in my life regarding being child free. I just dont want to raise children. I can't handle it when my niece and nephews are sometimes over for the weekend let alone raising a child for 18+ years. The problem is I dont know of any women around me that have this mindset who are also single and Christian. On top of that let's say i did meet someone like that then comes my next hurdle which is conviction. Ive pondered if things like contraceptives are sinful which is still ongoing for me plus you read the verses about being fruitful and multiplying. I just feel like I've always had this struggle with God. Let me just say there is nothing wrong with being a child free single Christian which is what I am right now. But I still desire a partner but not a child. This only way I could ever see myself raising a child is if it was by accident as mean as that sounds or and this might sound odd if my hopeful future wife who also didn't want children later on down the road stated that she is starting to become interested in having children. Maybe it has to do with wanting to make my wife happy idk. This is still an ongoing thing and sometimes I feel like its affected my relationship with God maybe because sometimes it can feel like im trying to be pushed into doing something i don't want in regards to this even if that's not true.

@Anon0

I think the commandment of multiplying was specific for Old Testament people. That goal has been fulfilled. There are places in the earth with over population.

I know that most women who want to marry would like to have one or more children if it can work out well for them, but there are some who do not. There are also some who cannot have children, but would still like to be married.

The commandments we have in the New Testament regarding responsibility for children is for parents to be a good parent to the kids they do have and for people to care for orphans. The New Testament doesn't command us to create more children. But it does command us to take care of the children that are already here.

Caring for orphans can be done in different ways, and doesn't necessarily mean being the one who raises them. It can be financial support. It can be donations. It can be volunteering time. It can be working in the system that protects children.

I don't believe that God is upset with people who choose to not have children. But I do think He looks at how we treat the children who do exists.

JAM2b said:

@Anon0

I think the commandment of multiplying was specific for Old Testament people. That goal has been fulfilled. There are places in the earth with over population.

I know that most women who want to marry would like to have one or more children if it can work out well for them, but there are some who do not. There are also some who cannot have children, but would still like to be married.

The commandments we have in the New Testament regarding responsibility for children is for parents to be a good parent to the kids they do have and for people to care for orphans. The New Testament doesn't command us to create more children. But it does command us to take care of the children that are already here.

Caring for orphans can be done in different ways, and doesn't necessarily mean being the one who raises them. It can be financial support. It can be donations. It can be volunteering time. It can be working in the system that protects children.

I don't believe that God is upset with people who choose to not have children. But I do think He looks at how we treat the children who do exists.

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That's a good way to view it. Idk where you are though that you know of single Christian women who don't want kids. Where I'm at I feel like i have no options available unless I was willing to compromise on key things.

I want my own kids someday soon. Although I respect people who don't feel the desire to have kids. They'd make good babysitters. Just kidding.