- Dec 31, 2025
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This is my first forum post like this and sorry it is so long, but thank you in advance to whoever reads this and offers some advice 
There's these two girls I've been talking to and I've gotten on with them very well. They are both friends but have put me in an awkward situation. They have both made it clear to me that they are interested in a relationship with me, while also acknowledging that they know the other likes me as well...
As I said, I've hit it off with them both very well, they are both attractive and kind, so knowing that they are good friends and trust each other, I thought it was a good idea when I told them that maybe they should talk to each other about their intentions with me, how they would feel about me being with one or the other, etc.....
I thought that was a good thing for me to do because I didn't want to hurt one of them by picking one over the other, and they are close so I thought they would be the best for each other to talk to.
Now I am in an inforseen scenario because they told me that they both made it clear to each other that they really liked me, and now they have asked me how I would feel about having them both be my girlfriends at the same time. I did not expect them to decide on sharing me.
It sounds pretty good because I am beginning to love them both, but I am a Cheistian. Polygamy is not allowed in the Christian faith and it is giving me a tough scenario to deal with.
This is one of the most difficult situations I have ever had to deal with. I know that I want to stay aligned with my faith above all else, which means not going along with their proposal.
With the two options left being either picking one or neither, that means no matter what I do, I am going to be hurting both of them. They are both amazing girls and it hurts that I have to do this.
I suppose the best option for me would be to pick one because I know that I would love her and we could have an amazing future together. However, I also feel that I should make the more selfless decision of picking neither so that I dont hurt the one I dont chose.
This then is also heartbreaking because I think that it means I'll hurt both of them. They probably wouldn't be as hurt individually as they would have been if I chose the other, but they will still both be hurt. I also dont want them to turn against each other and begin blaming the other or anything like that which would ruin their friendship over me.
It really sucks that the best choice for me and the girls at this point is a polygamous relationship, but it goes against my faith. I'm really struggling with what to do
What is your advice? Is it really wrong for me to love them both equally as they have asked? I feel like it isnt wrong since its what they want and I would show them both commitment and love equally. But at the same time, I want to stay true to my faith and I've been told its against Christianity.
(Sorry for such a long message, its alot for me and so much is on my mind)
There's these two girls I've been talking to and I've gotten on with them very well. They are both friends but have put me in an awkward situation. They have both made it clear to me that they are interested in a relationship with me, while also acknowledging that they know the other likes me as well...
As I said, I've hit it off with them both very well, they are both attractive and kind, so knowing that they are good friends and trust each other, I thought it was a good idea when I told them that maybe they should talk to each other about their intentions with me, how they would feel about me being with one or the other, etc.....
I thought that was a good thing for me to do because I didn't want to hurt one of them by picking one over the other, and they are close so I thought they would be the best for each other to talk to.
Now I am in an inforseen scenario because they told me that they both made it clear to each other that they really liked me, and now they have asked me how I would feel about having them both be my girlfriends at the same time. I did not expect them to decide on sharing me.
It sounds pretty good because I am beginning to love them both, but I am a Cheistian. Polygamy is not allowed in the Christian faith and it is giving me a tough scenario to deal with.
This is one of the most difficult situations I have ever had to deal with. I know that I want to stay aligned with my faith above all else, which means not going along with their proposal.
With the two options left being either picking one or neither, that means no matter what I do, I am going to be hurting both of them. They are both amazing girls and it hurts that I have to do this.
I suppose the best option for me would be to pick one because I know that I would love her and we could have an amazing future together. However, I also feel that I should make the more selfless decision of picking neither so that I dont hurt the one I dont chose.
This then is also heartbreaking because I think that it means I'll hurt both of them. They probably wouldn't be as hurt individually as they would have been if I chose the other, but they will still both be hurt. I also dont want them to turn against each other and begin blaming the other or anything like that which would ruin their friendship over me.
It really sucks that the best choice for me and the girls at this point is a polygamous relationship, but it goes against my faith. I'm really struggling with what to do
What is your advice? Is it really wrong for me to love them both equally as they have asked? I feel like it isnt wrong since its what they want and I would show them both commitment and love equally. But at the same time, I want to stay true to my faith and I've been told its against Christianity.
(Sorry for such a long message, its alot for me and so much is on my mind)
