Who's right? My spouse doesn’t want me to buy my dream car

"Why are you and your spouse not united?"

Someone should tell Chuck it's because they are different people and have different opinions based on different perspectives. And Chuck didn't ask maybe the most important financial questions: How often are you having to repair your current vehicle and how many miles are on it?

Have learned the hard way that you can keep a vehicle so long that it can stay in the shop about as much as you use it, spend money on repairs every time you turn around, and for all that the vehicle is no longer reliable. Have done the latter not once but twice this year. You want a financial ouch? That's a financial ouch. And we brought that on ourselves by trying to keep the vehicles on the road a little bit longer until one was completely wore out and the other had rapidly multiplying issues that no one could quite fix. We would have been better off to have traded one a few years ago, then trade the other, and not get hit with a double whammy. And it was all because we wanted to try to save money,

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Just saw this was in the Married Couples section. My response is based on financial considerations, not husband and wife relationship. My wife and I have been married nearly forty years, and there are times we've haven't seen eye-to-eye on things; most insignificant, a few not. Any married couple will tell you that's going to happen. We still love each other even though we have differences of opinion at times. We've always kept each other informed about things like issues of money, and for big purchases have never made a decision without consulting the other, even for emergency expenses. It's not a rule we have, it's just something we do. It just so happens we haven't disagreed on financial issues as large as buying a vehicle, but that may well be luck of the draw more than anything else.

The only marital advice I can give is what my grandfather gave me when my wife and I were engaged: "Find out what ticks off the other person, then don't do it."