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Men attend less singles events than women

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I know they are more social than i am, but i have too much to do to spend time just talking about etc....
I am also very introverted. Been hurt too many times.
 
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I think women tend to be more social than men. Women according to some psychologists are "more fun" than men, whatever that is supposed to mean.

I think maybe because men tend to be inflexible in social setups, whatever that is supposed to mean! It gets worse as you get older.
 
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I think maybe because men tend to be inflexible in social setups, whatever that is supposed to mean! It gets worse as you get older.
That's too bad.
 
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I think maybe because men tend to be inflexible in social setups, whatever that is supposed to mean! It gets worse as you get older.

Yeah, when it comes to social settings, if the man goes out with a woman to a social gathering, he'll tend to sit on the sidelines, while she gabs with her lady friends.

Sometimes, this is why you see women dancing with each other on the dance floors, dancing with each other, or with other single men, while their man watches from a bar stool.
He's just not into that stuff.

It also depends on where you live, if it's in a suburban or small town area, the men and women are pretty much attached at the hip, esp. if they have kids.

I recall a woman that was new in my town, that had a boyfriend, but she started saying to him, "I'm wanting to look for new friends in town" and he said, and no joke, "You don't need friends...you have me".
 
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I recall a woman that was new in my town, that had a boyfriend, but she started saying to him, "I'm wanting to look for new friends in town" and he said, and no joke, "You don't need friends...you have me".

It’s a principle that was touted in the manosphere and pua communities. Becoming her orbit is a mechanism for behavior modification that isolates and fosters dependency on the other. She’s easier to control when you’re all she knows. He’ll begin to reframe her worldview and person impress an ideal like a stepford or bimbo. They usually frown on friendships unless they’re similarly compromised. Some of the trad stuff you see online is really this in disguise.

~bella
 
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I recall a woman that was new in my town, that had a boyfriend, but she started saying to him, "I'm wanting to look for new friends in town" and he said, and no joke, "You don't need friends...you have me".

There's a good chance he will lose her if they don't have similar interests enough.

But hey, they're not married yet. Expect that to happen! But even if they're married, it would still be the right thing to do to give each other freedom to meet new friends or hold on to existing ones.
 
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Yeah, when it comes to social settings, if the man goes out with a woman to a social gathering, he'll tend to sit on the sidelines, while she gabs with her lady friends.
Yeah, when wives get together, they talk and their husbands pretty much have to talk to each other, even if they're nothing alike.

I recall a woman that was new in my town, that had a boyfriend, but she started saying to him, "I'm wanting to look for new friends in town" and he said, and no joke, "You don't need friends...you have me".
It’s a principle that was touted in the manosphere and pua communities. Becoming her orbit is a mechanism for behavior modification that isolates and fosters dependency on the other. She’s easier to control when you’re all she knows. He’ll begin to reframe her worldview and person impress an ideal like a stepford or bimbo. They usually frown on friendships unless they’re similarly compromised. Some of the trad stuff you see online is really this in disguise.

~bella
I'm going to say it's not necessarily always that, but it's a short and tempting leap to get to that. It starts out with a woman in a relationship that has friends of bad character, and through them she changes in a way that is damaging to the relationship. Like she's not liberal when they get married but at some point she becomes very liberal and she and her husband get divorced (I know a couple where that happened). Or the more classic one, she goes on a "girl's trip" with her friends and ends up cheating because one or more of them is hooking up on it, and they all help her cover it up. Since a lot of the manosphere content is driven by divorced men who got cheated on, there's definitely going to be an emphasis on countering that. Thus it's an easy leap to go from "no friends of bad character" to "no friends at all." I definitely don't want to be that guy who doesn't want his lady to not have friends at all, but the challenge these situations presents is trusting not only the girlfriend/wife's strength of convictions and integrity, but those of her friends as well in the decadent culture that we have today.
 
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I'm going to say it's not necessarily always that, but it's a short and tempting leap to get to that. It starts out with a woman in a relationship that has friends of bad character, and through them she changes in a way that is damaging to the relationship.

Marriages are comprised of two people who contribute to its makeup and outcome that are equally culpable. Most marriages aren’t initiated with God in mind nor is He consulted before its inception and many christians seek His blessing once they’ve decided. If we neglect to seek Wisdom’s counsel we have no one to blame but ourselves. Each person must own their part in the result. No one gets a pass.

A seed will not germinate in an inhospitable setting. Your friends can’t talk you into anything unless you’re open to suggestion on the subject. The majority aren’t coerced or under duress when they sin. We do it willingly. Whatever contributed to marital strife must be resolved within the Lord’s presence. And you don’t get His best without His involvement throughout.

When we walk with the Lord and esteem His holiness He never stops talking. You don’t align yourselves with the devil’s spawn haphazardly. Spirit testifies to spirit and the differences are evident. But if you choose with the flesh you’re on your own.

The world’s sufferings aren’t mine nor will I claim them. I don’t care what the manosphere says or feminism either. It’s a proclamation for wayward souls who’ve left His abode. Why would I direct it to myself? You can’t know who you are and operate from that position with authority until you understand who He is and what sonship entails. May you be edified by these words and cease to speak of yourself in limited terms.

Thou dost walk by my side, Son of God, Redeemer of the world, Thou art the supreme remedy for my every lack, the cure of my every longing. Thou art the ease for every heartache, the satisfaction of every desire. Thou art my healer, my banker, my guide, my all in all. There is no need in my life which Thou dost not completely fill with Thyself.

Through every moment of every day down the ages since I came out from Thee into expression, Thou hast kept me. Thou keepest me still in the hollow of Thy hand. Thy love overshadows me in all my wanderings and guides me back into the righteous way. It goes before me to make my way light; it remains behind me to protect me; below it lifts me up out of hard places. It plucks my feet out of the nets of materiality and sets them on the rock of salvation. Its bountiful table is always spread before me, until my cup runneth over.

Thine all-encompassing love hath kept me back from many stumblings, has held me back out of many waters, has emancipated me from fear and doubt arid worry, from sins of omission and commission. Thy love is from everlasting to everlasting, the same yesterday, today, and forever, and in it I live and move and have my being. In it I find completion, I find peace and satisfaction.

Because Thou art through eternity the supreme remedy for every lack in the mind, body, and affairs of man, I hold to Thee only, and am transformed from glory to glory into the spiritual unity with Thee that was mine before the world was. Thou, O Christ of God, art the way, the Truth, and the life, and Thou hast Thy home in my soul. I give myself to Thee as an eternal gift, and in this union I lose all resemblance to the old Adam man, for I am a new creature in Christ Jesus, whole, complete.


~bella
 
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