I Unfriended My Nieces' "Wife" on Facebook. How do you support without condoning something?

Chrystal-J · Jul 25, 2025

How do you support someone who's deep in sin, and doesn't seem bothered by it at all? Is prayer the only answer? I unfriended my niece's "wife" on Facebook. I'm hoping it doesn't provoke a hostile reaction. She was posting graphic, inappropriate stuff (in my opinion) that I have no desire to see. I love my niece, but I'm hoping she'll get out of this relationship for her own good.

caffeinated.hermit · Jul 25, 2025

If it does provoke a reaction, ignore it. Especially if you have little to nothing to do with this woman in real life and don't really think of her as a friend. Prayer always works.

Chrystal-J · Jul 25, 2025

caffeinated.hermit said:
If it does provoke a reaction, ignore it. Especially if you have little to nothing to do with this woman in real life and don't really think of her as a friend. Prayer always works.

You're right--I don't have anything to do with this woman. If she gets an attitude, I'll have to accept that that's her choice. I'll continue to pray for my niece (and my other niece who's into Satanism). Maybe prayer is all I can do. :crosseo:

boughtwithaprice · Jul 26, 2025

There are two ways to look at this. Your nieces aversion to men and preferring a relationship with a woman vs her desire to what is termed deviant sexual intercourse or DSI.
Christianity calls everyone to chastity which includes homosexual and heterosexual. Sex is to be oriented toward bearing and raising children
If that is not the goal then instead of edifying a couple, it reduces them to partners in crime. They may initially enjoy it, but the sacrificial nature of relationships will put too much stress on them and they will either bore of each other or grow to resent each other

If two women or two men wish to maintain a chaste relationship, God does not forbid it

You may ask your niece if she wants to be loved or places emphasis on intercourse. DSI is mortal sin and will result in misery

If they don’t see the difference, you do right by cutting off relations and resorting to prayer
It is not a blessing to be supportive of mortal sin, it does them no good

Michie · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
You're right--I don't have anything to do with this woman. If she gets an attitude, I'll have to accept that that's her choice. I'll continue to pray for my niece (and my other niece who's into Satanism). Maybe prayer is all I can do.

Prayers and witness by your actions. If she was posting things you did not care to see, it’s understandable that you’d cut that out. And should it turn into an issue, that’s all you have to say. As far as their relationship, all you can do is pray and give a good witness by your actions when you are around them.

RileyG · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
How do you support someone who's deep in sin, and doesn't seem bothered by it at all? Is prayer the only answer? I unfriended my niece's "wife" on Facebook. I'm hoping it doesn't provoke a hostile reaction. She was posting graphic, inappropriate stuff (in my opinion) that I have no desire to see. I love my niece, but I'm hoping she'll get out of this relationship for her own good.

You did the right thing.

I have my brother deep in that lifestyle and my parents are fine with letting his “boyfriends” come to family dinners in front of my young niece and nephews! So, so wrong!

Makes my skin crawl.

He habitually cheated on his last boyfriend by finding random men to hook up with on grindr and he cried when his last boyfriend broke up with him.

So, so disgusting!

RileyG · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
You're right--I don't have anything to do with this woman. If she gets an attitude, I'll have to accept that that's her choice. I'll continue to pray for my niece (and my other niece who's into Satanism). Maybe prayer is all I can do.

Sometimes, the only thing you can do is pray.

Chrystal-J · Jul 26, 2025

RileyG said:
You did the right thing.

I have my brother deep in that lifestyle and my parents are fine with letting his “boyfriends” come to family dinners in front of my young niece and nephews! So, so wrong!

Makes my skin crawl.

He habitually cheated on his last boyfriend by finding random men to hook up with on grindr and he cried when his last boyfriend broke up with him.

So, so disgusting!

She had a "wedding" but it wasn't legal. (I didn't go.) It's so hard because my niece is really nice, but her girlfriend is a trouble-maker. My son feels like my niece would go out with anyone who accepted her and gave her attention--including men. I pray for her each night that she finds Christ, but it's hard to see her in such a sinful situation.
I understand what you're going through with your brother. My best friend (who ended up committing suicide) ran out of guys to sleep with in Detroit and had to go to Chicago! I don't understand that rampant, out-of-control behavior either.

Chrystal-J · Jul 26, 2025

Michie said:
Prayers and witness by your actions. If she was posting things you did not care to see, it’s understandable that you’d cut that out. And should it turn into an issue, that’s all you have to say. As far as their relationship, all you can do is pray and give a good witness by your actions when you are around them.

She lives out of state and I don't see her much. So, I thought maybe I could reach her through Face Book. I haven't unfriended my niece yet, just her "wife". So, maybe I can still reach her with my Christian posts.

Michie · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
She lives out of state and I don't see her much. So, I thought maybe I could reach her through Face Book. I haven't unfriended my niece yet, just her "wife". So, maybe I can still reach her with my Christian posts.

Yeah they can read your content.

RileyG · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
She had a "wedding" but it wasn't legal. (I didn't go.) It's so hard because my niece is really nice, but her girlfriend is a trouble-maker. My son feels like my niece would go out with anyone who accepted her and gave her attention--including men. I pray for her each night that she finds Christ, but it's hard to see her in such a sinful situation.
I understand what you're going through with your brother. My best friend (who ended up committing suicide) ran out of guys to sleep with in Detroit and had to go to Chicago! I don't understand that rampant, out-of-control behavior either.

I’m so sorry. Keep praying.

RileyG · Jul 26, 2025

Chrystal-J said:
She lives out of state and I don't see her much. So, I thought maybe I could reach her through Face Book. I haven't unfriended my niece yet, just her "wife". So, maybe I can still reach her with my Christian posts.

Many gay men and women don’t think God loves them. My brothers own words when he attacked my deceased cat (she was hissing at him) and calling her dirty names.

boughtwithaprice · Jul 29, 2025

RileyG said:
Many gay men and women don’t think God loves them. My brothers own words when he attacked my deceased cat (she was hissing at him) and calling her dirty names.

That is the challenge to the Church is to spread the love of God. Gay men and women have been lead captive by Satan, and it is not because they are gay. He uses their orientation to engage in unchastity. Then Satan uses the guilt of their unchaste acts to keep them separate from the love of God.
What is often overlooked is the heterosexuals are called to the same level of chastity as everyone else. We are to mortify the deeds of our flesh, and subject our bodily desires to the will of God. There is no excuse for us to abuse each other and say it’s ok, it’s heterosexual so it’s not that bad.
Contraception is a mortal sin and profanes the marital act in the same way as does homosexual acts and masturbation. Those that engage is such acts have not mortified their flesh as commanded by Christ, and cause the word of God to be blasphemed among homosexuals, because they think God does not love them.
If we argue that our fleshly desires make us more holy because we are heterosexual, it is as absurd as arguing the preference for the taste of chocolate or vanilla determines holiness

There is nothing wrong with not wanting children, and there is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship of brotherly or sisterly love. The sin is in disobeying God, and giving into animal desires rather than subjecting our bodies to God’s will and acting in love

Sex is oriented toward children and not pleasure only

LizaMarie · Jul 29, 2025

This is tough. What I have done is unfollow certain people on FB(usually friends or family members) without unfriending them.
This way I can't see their posts.
When you unfollow someone, their posts will no longer show up in your feed, but they are still on your friends list, and they can still see your posts(unless they unfollow you) If you want to see their posts you have to go to their profile directly.
This is what I have done in the case of a family member whose posts were offensive to me, but I didn't want to unfriend them.

LizaMarie · Jul 29, 2025

Also Pray Acts 26:18- to open their eyes, and turn from Darkness to Light and the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins.

Chrystal-J · Jul 29, 2025

LizaMarie said:
This is tough. What I have done is unfollow certain people on FB(usually friends or family members) without unfriending them.
This way I can't see their posts.
When you unfollow someone, their posts will no longer show up in your feed, but they are still on your friends list, and they can still see your posts(unless they unfollow you) If you want to see their posts you have to go to their profile directly.
This is what I have done in the case of a family member whose posts were offensive to me, but I didn't want to unfriend them.

Thanks for the information!

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