Are women more open to dating you than you think?

everyone is different. I learned the stereotypes of “what they like” at a young age and I’m still trying to break them. You would think the stereotypes would get easier to break as you get older as you see more examples of relationships that contradict those stereotypes, but the flesh only pushes back harder.
Yes, you should develop relationships toregardless of if they are single or married, man or woman. Not as a means of getting married, but because it’s good to do. It is actually more important for you to do that now than to get married
There’s no guarantees. A lot of people who are “aggressive” are single, and it also seems like people who don’t try at all end up finding the one easy. My opinion is it’s not based on aggressiveness but the work of God. Read the line under your username. Maybe that’s why I’m single

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat said:

Is it true that women will date any man as long as he approaches her properly and knows how to communicate?

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No it's not. Sure, approaching and communicating properly help, but those are the only requirements that women have.

I think the term you mean is assertive. Not aggressive. And you’re overthinking this. Consider what you asked. Would a woman date someone who’s polite and communicates well? Who would base a decision like that on something so limited? There’s no opportunity to gauge his character or consistency. Most people require more time to get acquainted.

Stop focusing on what a woman will do and build connections. Don’t limit yourself to women or ones you’re attracted to. Get to know people you enjoy spending time with so you aren’t obsessing about the subject. If you’re easygoing and personable you’ll have a better chance attracting someone than being neurotically focused on the opposite sex.

And all relationships aren‘t God‘s doing nor does everyone involve Him in the process from start to finish. Many choose someone they’re attracted to and go from there. Bringing Him the picture changes everything and may take longer. Which can be difficult for some.

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For me, its my eyes. And my ears of course. Just got to try and keep my paws clean though. Nothing worse than dirty paws!

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat said:

Is it true that women will date any man as long as he approaches her properly and knows how to communicate?

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Many won't.

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat said:

One thing I don't believe anymore is that it's all about looks. I think women are smarter than that.

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Looks + money + other things if they're looking for a long-term relationship.

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat said:

Am I right is the only difference between the single and not based on just how aggressive you are? Seems worth a shot for me since the best shot I have is to see if someone will give me a chance.

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Probably not. I won't say that getting out there doesn't have value, but if you smell horrible and you're ugly and you give off creeper vibes, getting out there won't get you a whole lot of success.

I don't think there is a high success rate for approaching total strangers. Obviously if a guy is really attractive, it might increase his odds, but most women are going to be a little guarded when some guy they don't know approaches them to ask for a date. It obviously does work for guys in some situations, but I don't think that is the typical outcome. I do agree though that it doesn't hurt to be more assertive and look for opportunities to speak to women. I think your chances of getting a "yes" go up a lot the more you interact with others. My suggestion is to join some local interest groups that allow you to mingle semi-regulalry with others. It takes a lot of the worry or fear of danger out of the equation. Oddly enough, running clubs have become one of the trendy new ways to meet someone haha. I've even heard that there is this new trend of asking a girl to add you to Strava ( the popular running app). I found that so amusing. But honestly, I can see why. You are both pursuing a similar interest and trying to better your overall health. Running groups tend to be very welcoming and encouraging. There are often a lot of community runs and events too that also allow you to meet new people. It's something to consider. Even if that is not your thing, consider joining other groups that focus on a hobby you do enjoy.

My one piece of advice is that women feel very turned off by desperation. It does send off a predatory signal ( even if the guy isn't actually dangerous or creepy). You don't want to appear like you are on the hunt for a woman. Even if you are lol. Try to play it cool and keep your interactions casual. Also, from the Christian perspective, you shouldn't really be asking just anyone out for a date. You should try to find out something about their faith prior. As a Christian woman, I would assume that if a man is asking me out on a date and he doesn't know if I'm a Christian or not, that he probably isn't one. Yes, he could ask questions on the date to find out, but it's not a promising start in my opinion. This is why I don't really think asking total strangers out for dates is a very practical method for Christians.

The entire experience of love whether in dating, heartbreak, union, or parting is meant to awaken us to the mystery of Christ and draw us toward His perfection.

GospelS said:

The entire experience of love whether in dating, heartbreak, union, or parting is meant to awaken us to the mystery of Christ and draw us toward His perfection.

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Yep, right on, you get it! But he is not a mystery. I can declare him to you!