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Thoughts on a 26 year old dating a 18 year old?

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Hey y'all, been a while since I've posted. It's good to be back. Let's cut to the chase: I'm 26 years old, and recently I've had more opportunities to talk to an 18 year old young woman at my church. There seems to be a spark there.

Normally I would avoid such an age group, but I have found her to be different. For instance, she wears head coverings to church due to her own biblical convictions. When I was 18, I was far from thinking about such things.

But I realize an 8 year age gap is not insignificant. A couple of church friends I know have asked me about our budding relationship and seem to support it. I know her parents, and they seem to like me (although I fully intend to approach her father for permission to date her, if I decide to).

So, ultimately I wonder if this would be a wise relationship. I want to handle this honorably. Would appreciate thoughts on this! Thank you.
 

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Hey y'all, been a while since I've posted. It's good to be back. Let's cut to the chase: I'm 26 years old, and recently I've had more opportunities to talk to an 18 year old young woman at my church. There seems to be a spark there.

Normally I would avoid such an age group, but I have found her to be different. For instance, she wears head coverings to church due to her own biblical convictions. When I was 18, I was far from thinking about such things.

But I realize an 8 year age gap is not insignificant. A couple of church friends I know have asked me about our budding relationship and seem to support it. I know her parents, and they seem to like me (although I fully intend to approach her father for permission to date her, if I decide to).

So, ultimately I wonder if this would be a wise relationship. I want to handle this honorably. Would appreciate thoughts on this! Thank you.
It's legal. It seems weird/wrong now because she is still a teenager but once that girl starts reaching her mid 20's (or even just 23), that 8 year age isn't going to seem that much of a big deal. It's normal.
 
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8 years difference can be little or a lot depends on the person, but if she wants to date you and her parents are ok with it, I think you might have a chance to figure out what exact feelings are between you.
 
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she wears head coverings to church due to her own biblical convictions.

Sounds like she is very mature spiritually. A woman worth more than gold. The longer you delay in marrying her, the greater chance someone else might show an interest in her!
 
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