My brain got killed again

Prayers for you and your Dad Ladybug. I know this type of thing has been going on forever. It’s exhausting. How to break this pattern? That’s up to you both to decide but I know it can’t be healthy.

Lady Bug said:

I'm not really sure how to break the pattern. I actually have given up trying to figure out -at least for the time being. I view it as like a tropical storm in Florida - you know they happen and they can't stop and you have to weather the storm each time it comes.

You'd be surprised to learn that compared to other Muslim fathers, he would be the "easiest" one to have. And even then...

Thank you for your prayers. Keep in mind that I'm not trying to annoy you or anyone by posting this kind of stuff; I'm in too much pain sometimes and I can't take it.

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Believe it or not, I understand. But we have enough on our plates these days it seems. Maybe move out to a nearby apartment? See him daily and let him know you care. But get that time alone you need to nourish yourself as well. The constant repeats of the bickering over these things cannot be good for either one of you. The separation might be healing as far as not seeing each other as an appendage but two different people that love and cherish each other even in disagreement. He worries, you worry. It might be a release for both of you if you seek out your own space but being in short proximity at the same time.

Don't engage.
Walk away and do something else less stressful.

Not engaging stops the pattern.

I am praying for this situation, I know it's been going on for ages. Enough is enough. I think it would be wise, if possible, to move out and get a small apartment but visit him often, this will show that you are not taking any more of his folderol and maybe bring you both closer. Constant fighting is stress and stress causes illness.

Lady Bug said:

I won't have too many years left until dementia starts kicking in and I will realize that I've never been myself.

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You need a positive confession of faith. There is a lot of power in what we say. God is able to rescue, save, heal, and deliver us. Our Heavenly Father is perfect. He does not ever disappoint us or let us down. He is always positive with us and never negative.

If we could literally hear and feel the power of prayer as it unfolds... what a wonderful thing.
But since we are living on trust and faith, then trust in prayer over both yourself and your dad.

Great daily prayer

Diamond7 said:

You need a positive confession of faith. There is a lot of power in what we say. God is able to rescue, save, heal, and deliver us. Our Heavenly Father is perfect. He does not ever disappoint us or let us down. He is always positive with us and never negative.

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Your post really spoke to me, too. I know it is because God has been 'speaking' to my heart about this very same thing!

It can be difficult to remain positive when we are living in a difficult situation, or are frequently around negative or unbelieving persons, etc.

Six months ago, two persons in my close family circle were diagnosed with cancer, within one month of each other.
And so six months ago, life changed radically for some of us in my family.

We were all totally shocked with the two diagnoses. And quickly our lives became all about hospitals, oncologists, infusion centers, scans, lab tests, everybody in masks, etc., and lots of prayer. With the diagnoses, we found ourselves entering 'a whole new world' we never knew existed ... and for our household, the 'new cancer world' was all the time just 5 minutes down the street from us. We just weren't even aware of it!

It's been 6 months. One family member is doing very well; the other is not. During these months, we've learned alot about cancer. When there is a problem, I try to learn as much as I can about it. (I wonder what caused it, you know?) Well, we don't have to look too far to find some possible reasons, and then we have a train derailment in our state ... releasing toxic chemicals into the environment ... and we don't need to look much farther for more possible reasons. (ugh!)

Point being, when one enters the world of cancer, it can be alarming to discover there are so many persons battling this horrible disease. And after six months experience with this, one can almost get to thinking that eventually we may all get it! Lately, I've come to realize that I've begun thinking and speaking that way.

On Sunday, I was listening to a preacher on tv. And I heard him quote this verse, that quickly spoke to my heart:

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue;
those who make it a friend shall eat its fruit."
~ Proverbs 18:21

According to the Bible, the words we speak are powerful.
So, no more speaking 'deadly' words about cancer, from me ...

mourningdove~ said:

diagnosed with cancer,

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People with cancer tend to improve when they are around me. I think cancer comes from people who are in conflict with themselves. We need a positive confession of faith and we need to put it under the blood of Jesus. The law of attraction people talks about this also, drawing positive energy and avoiding negativity.

Diamond7 said:

People with cancer tend to improve when they are around me. I think cancer comes from people who are in conflict with themselves. We need a positive confession of faith and we need to put it under the blood of Jesus. The law of attraction people talks about this also, drawing positive energy and avoiding negativity.

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What you are saying is not Catholic teaching. You are free to post here in OBOB on a friendly basis, but please refrain from giving spiritual advice.
As Catholics, we do not draw on energy. That is the practice of witchcraft. When we are in conflict, it is God that is allowing it to happen to us for the good of our soul. God wants us to learn something because ALL things work together for good to those that love God. If we consent to suffer, that is infinitely more beneficial to our soul than to wave a magic wand and blow it away with positive "energy".
If the conflict is too much, and we cannot see what God is trying to do, then we retreat to prayer and fasting, and ask God the reason for our conflict. If we have no answer from God, then we have Our Lady who is an ever present help in time of trouble. She is our mother and the human part of Our Lord's hypostatic union. No one who flees to her protection, implores her help, or seeks her intercession is left unaided.
We reason with God, and do not depend on feelings to make decisions. We meditate on His law day and night, and He will point us in the way to go, as He says, if you love me, keep my commandments. There is no emotional feeling that is worth breaking His law.

Thank you for posting, but please remember this is the Catholic forum.


If interested, I highly recommend this video by Fr Chad Ripperger, a well known exorcist