- Aug 26, 2021
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I feel great amounts of despair over certain abnormalities about how I was brought into the Church. For example, I lack godparents in any real sense, because some stranger recieved me from the baptismal font and left the Church sometime afterward. I was baptized into abandonment. Even the paperwork appears to be inaccurate, bearing someone else's name. And even the Saint's name that had been chosen for me was not used in the rite and was inserted later into the paperwork. And in a much more painful instance, I was accidentally prevented from being the godfather of the person I love most in this world. And as a result, also, the relationship between that person and who their sponsor ended up being grew to overshadow our relationship.
And maybe this might not seem like a lot to any of you, but these are issues that I repeatedly fall apart over and sometimes spend days weeping about. Because I believe what I was taught about the nature of these relationships - that there is something ontologically real and something ontologically, and is some way eternally, defining about them - that there is some kind of real and special sacramental nature which these relations have. But this is not abstract, because it clearly has real effects in the social and material world I live in.
And then, of course, here is no redeeming these things which have happened, so I have no hope and despair. There is no way to make it right.
But this is a repeating pattern and looking at the pattern I feel like God wants to exclude me because He hates me. God hates me.
I love my priest and I see the Holy Spirit working in him towards me. But he has hurt me. And I don't know how to talk to him about it.
I feel great amounts of despair over certain abnormalities about how I was brought into the Church. For example, I lack godparents in any real sense, because some stranger recieved me from the baptismal font and left the Church sometime afterward. I was baptized into abandonment. Even the paperwork appears to be inaccurate, bearing someone else's name. And even the Saint's name that had been chosen for me was not used in the rite and was inserted later into the paperwork. And in a much more painful instance, I was accidentally prevented from being the godfather of the person I love most in this world. And as a result, also, the relationship between that person and who their sponsor ended up being grew to overshadow our relationship.
And maybe this might not seem like a lot to any of you, but these are issues that I repeatedly fall apart over and sometimes spend days weeping about. Because I believe what I was taught about the nature of these relationships - that there is something ontologically real and something ontologically, and is some way eternally, defining about them - that there is some kind of real and special sacramental nature which these relations have. But this is not abstract, because it clearly has real effects in the social and material world I live in.
And then, of course, here is no redeeming these things which have happened, so I have no hope and despair. There is no way to make it right.
But this is a repeating pattern and looking at the pattern I feel like God wants to exclude me because He hates me. God hates me.
I love my priest and I see the Holy Spirit working in him towards me. But he has hurt me. And I don't know how to talk to him about it.