I showed you that from the BDAG lexicon and from Andreas J Köstenberger's commentary on 1-2 Timothy and Titus in a previous thread.
We can add to that if you want-
Douglas Moo acknowledges that this phrase need not exclude “unmarried men or females from the office . . . it would be going too far to argue that the phrase clearly excludes women. . . .” Douglas J. Moo, “The Interpretation of 1 Timothy 2:11–15: A Rejoinder,” TJ 2 NS (1981): 198–222, 211.
Thomas Schreiner acknowledges, “The requirements for elders in 1 Tim 3:1–7 and Titus 1:6–9, including the statement that they are to be one-woman men, does not necessarily in and of itself preclude women from serving as elders. . . .” Thomas R. Schreiner’s “Philip Payne on Familiar Ground: A Review of Philip B. Payne, Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul’s Letters.” JBMW (Spring 2010): 33–46, 35.
Köstenberger, Moo, and Schriener are all well known complementarians that oppose women as pastors, but they all agree that you're all wet regarding "husband of one wife."
So let me get my 100 PHD biblical and linguistic scholars that say your scholars are wrong and I win!
Phrases like "does not necessarily mean" is not proof but a guess!
You hang it all on the fact that Phoebe was called a diakonos to the church in Chenchrea. I also agree that unmarried men were not excluded, because teh same Inpsired writer also made specific comment on that.
You are trying to make an argument from silence not from evidence.
Acts 6
King James Version
6 And in those days, when the number of the disciples was multiplied, there arose a murmuring of the Grecians against the Hebrews, because their widows were neglected in the daily ministration.
2 Then the twelve called the multitude of the disciples unto them, and said, It is not reason that we should leave the word of God, and serve tables.
3 Wherefore, brethren, look ye out among you seven men of honest report, full of the Holy Ghost and wisdom, whom we may appoint over this business.
ANER again. Gender specific! Peter- what a mysoginistic pig he was! ( I am being sarcastic).
Don't you think that if God wanted women pastors and deacons and Him knowng this conflict would come up, would use more nongender specific words? He had them available to use in Greek!
But I still await teh evidence these authors you cite used to give their conclusions. I know their conclusions, but you have not given us the evidence from grammar, culture, and history that caused them to reach those conclusions.