It was a good question. Taking stock is important. We change and grow.
I don't have to think about what works. I've spent enough time on it and bring God into the process. I seek His input on my alliances. He knows what's best.
There's pros and cons. You have to build intentionally and consider the impact your choices will have on other parties. It's not all about you. I'm looking for people who'll get along and be a blessing for one another. Groups can be a force for good or evil. I want people to be bettered through my acquaintance.
You have to be firm. Pile-ons can happen. Sometimes groups inspire competition. They feel one person gets more attention than another and they're jockeying for position. You have to shut that down. Some people aren't well suited for that kind of relating. They want to come first, be the apple of your eye, etc. It won't work in a group.
It isn't easy. We all fall short. But you see the wisdom in the mandate. It restrains and compels. Some situations are easier than others.
I believe in as-is connections. I don't form alliances contingent on change. I can't change anyone. Either I accept the person or I don't. We do a disservice to ourselves and others when we ignore the obvious and expect a difference down the road. That isn't fair to either.
There are things I took on in the past that I wouldn't take on today. I know better. I'm honest about what I can handle. Change takes longer than you anticipate. The enthusiasm wanes and you grow tired and begin to complain. You can alleviate your frustration by telling the truth.
God equipped me in some places. But other areas are lacking. It isn't a strength. I'm not adept. There's no shame in admitting I'm not the best one for the job. I know it. I've made enough well-meaning mistakes to overlook it.
Yours in His Service,
~bella
