Family Dynamics

I have difficulty with the dynamics of my family. How do I manage family dynamics where my parents previously didn't want me going over to my aunt's house for during the holidays (former yearly tradition where she would invite me and my siblings over being as how my immediate family didn't do much of anything) and previously would be angry with me depending on what information I told her about myself - but my mom and my aunt are ALWAYS talking to each other for like hours on the phone, could be hours in a day or just multiple hours throughout the week. My mom has previously advised me to not speak to my aunt because of her known involvement in things that were very wrong and harmful and even my mom didn't speak to her for about a year or two. That was in the past and they do speak now. Given my parent's former opposition to me speaking to my aunt I just gave up on the relationship and for my own reasons have been avoiding my aunt and that side of the family - prayerfully. It makes me feel bad, but as I am prayerful about it, it's like because there are things going on that I don't know, the spirit of God is just leading me to stay away. But I feel bad about it. I also just don't understand the dynamics of what is going on.

Franki(ncense) said:

I'd say stay where you are prayerfully until The Lord tells you to move. You did say " the spirit God of God is just leading you to stay away" didn't you? Feelings always come and go, i wouldn't worry too much about the feeling bad part.

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You're right, feelings do change! It's because it's my family and I know that I will always be related to them as much as I may not associate much with them.

The dynamics of my family are so weird I just don't even know how to deal with everything. I wish I could really talk to someone more in depth about it, but most often people don't really tend to understand, which is really frustrating. I've avoided that side of the family because of their own involvement in wrongdoing and I was really tired of being constantly put in the middle which was stressful. But even now or up until a little while ago it seemed like my mom was careful about what info she disclosed about us. But idk, is that how all families are that the parents air out all their business to everyone else and badmouth the children to them? I'm just tired of it and it stresses me out. I don't even want to post on here about it but I figure it's better for me to ask advice than to keep quiet about it.