Needing Advice - What would you do? Th
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I'm just curious where Christian's are scrolling past inappropriate contentography. I am on the net,yet never encounter it. I couldn't conceivably accidentally like it,because I'm not anywhere where it is.....?
Am I just being supernaturally protected,or what?
Am I just being supernaturally protected,or what?
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I disagree. I think you are projecting some really strange prejudices to someone who simply liked one inappropriate content video.
How about sending him an anonymous message that you disliked finding a like on a inappropriate content video without the judgmental "I would urge you to get help" nonsense?
In my opinion it is very unfortunate for that person that it was someone like you who found that like, but you can still help him by sending a message that is as non-judgmental as possible while notifying him of his mistake.
I disagree here, too. While I do agree that there is some possibility of him being trash as a person, but there is no evidence of this just from him watching inappropriate content. Not all people who watch inappropriate content cannot control their lust.
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The last time I encountered it, a few months ago now, I was going to a known Christian site using my phone and it popped up. I usually use my desktop for that site but this time I didn't. Shock. I notified the webmaster and they looked into it but I don't know the resolution. I haven't seen it after that so I suspect it's fixed. Point is, the inappropriate contentographers are pretty aggressive in spreading their pottage. It's highly addictive so they do have a chance of turning a random non-deliberate viewer into a paying customer.
On desktops and laptops it is fairly easy to filter inappropriate content out. The way I do it is to use OpenDNS and use their filtering option. It works well and is free. But as to phones it's a bit trickier and I obviously don't have it all the way figured out.
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I would tend to apply Matthew 18 in such a way that I would assume that his phone had been swiped and somebody liked the inappropriate content video to attempt to get him into trouble. I would go to him alone......... and let him know just you and him but..... the fact that you are a girl.... and he is a guy........ you might want to bring in a witness??????
Each set of circumstances is unique..... do you happen to know of anybody in the church who is noted for being exceptionally wise and could know what you know without telling other church members?
If not... then one of your options is to send him the link to this discussion to his personal e-mail...... from an anonymous e-mail........... and if he is innocent he may check his twitter and discover the problem.
If he was watching the video himself he would be unlikely to be so stupid as to hit "like."
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The obvious thing is to directly confront the person. Unless there is a sexual abuse policy for the church that is more stringent than that. See how he handles the issue; whether it passes the smell test.
That's all well and good if it was some sort of 'innocent' mistake or hack or something. What if it's the one clue to a much deeper problem that will not otherwise be apparent for years, perhaps after many youth in the youth group have been abused? Not every cad is obviously a cad. Many are very skilled at hiding the worst of their character, for years even.
I think this has to be taken very seriously. This could be a totally innocent thing. Or the one bit of evidence which should start an investigation leading to this guy's removal. To let it slide is inadequate, even if in the end it is nothing. IMHO.
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Your advice is better than mine!!!!!!
If this was a joke played on him..... by getting the problem out there...... the truth will come out........... and you are correct this could well be the one major clue that could indicate a much, much, much greater problem. Actually...... if the time and date of the "like" is available.... it could even come out who might attempt to have gotten him into trouble if..... that was what happened.
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I would say that you should work on your “social media stalking” and leave him alone.
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The "urge you to get help" part is a judgment, so I advise not to say that. I also wouldn't advise you to say "I think your account got hacked," because that is vague, and a conclusion to what you saw. It wouldn't solve anything, since he wouldn't know what to look for.
If you say anything, stick to just facts, like "I saw a 'like' on a inappropriate content video in your account." That's simply a fact, and you're not adding anything to it. If you do it to inform him of a risk of his reputation, then I would deem that a loving act. If someone saw that on my page, I'd certainly want to know about it so I could deal with it.
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I understand being straight forward in this but there is the possibility that someone else used his computer and did it
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If the pastor is innocent, ie clicked wrong while scrolling, or someone is messing with him/her, they need to be aware that its showing up in their like list to fix it. Doing nothing potentially puts him at risk at some point down the road...
If not innocent, which is possible, being that over 50% of evangelical pastors have a inappropriate content problem in the US (according to Christianity Today) he also needs to be aware its showing up in public. It might be just the step needed for him to get back on the right path.
If not innocent, which is possible, being that over 50% of evangelical pastors have a inappropriate content problem in the US (according to Christianity Today) he also needs to be aware its showing up in public. It might be just the step needed for him to get back on the right path.
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If it was intentional AND as you flamboyantly admit, you have such an interest in him that you have been stalking him, if you privately meet with him, what do you think will happen? Hint: lit match dropped in dynamite. Only it would be worse as a lot more than just things would be destroyed.
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