Ephesians 4:31-32 says >
"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)
So, if we are going to love as God's family, there are things we must put away from ourselves >
"bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking," and "all malice" > plus put away unforgiveness, so we are forgiving
"even as God" ! ! !
We need, then, to become pure by putting away what is not pure in God's love. And so I see this can feed us to understand what James means by wisdom being
"first pure". There is this love meaning > how we become
"first pure" in the wisdom of God's love, by becoming free of anti-love, not-pure stuff like
"bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking" and
"all malice", and unforgiveness.
Also, Paul says,
"Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation," (in Philippians 2:13-16)
So, also, we can see, in order to become
"first pure" in love's wisdom, we need to not give in to anything in us which would cause us to complain or argue. If we have wisdom in our character which is
"first pure", then, we can not give in to Satanic stuff which would degrade us with anti-love things which bring complaining or arguing.
But instead we become
"tenderhearted" (Ephesians 4:31-32) in how we relate as God's family.
This is in our character . . . how to be . . . not merely in how we act and tone our voices!! So, we need how You change us, O God. The glory is to You ! ! ! Thank You so much, in the name of Jesus Your Son