Hello! I was wondering what everyone's thoughts are on disagreeing with people lovingly/with kindness. I notice that on the internet there are many passionate conflicts where people disagree (even among Christians), but they are unable to lovingly or even civilly disagree or express diverging viewpoints.
I also confess that I am guilty of this, mostly in person (online I have more time to reflect and realize I'm responding inappropriately). My parents frequently argue, and I find that I often argue with the same kind of anger that they do! I'm ashamed to say that my disagreements with my parents often result in my saying some angry words, stewing in my anger, and then realizing my guilt and wrong in how I responded. Yet I seem to get into a pattern even though I am ashamed, and find I am needing to apologize for my behavior a lot these days. It helps me to realize that my response is not their fault, but shows that there is something in me (selfishness, pride, insecurity) that reflects in my needlessly angry responses. Yet still I don't respond rightly most of the time.
So my question is, how can we speak to each other, in general, about strong disagreements but still meet each other in the middle? Both online and in person. What does it take to be able to disagree strongly and express that disagreement respectfully and lovingly? Why is it so hard to do this sometimes?
I am genuinely interested to hear some advice on this, most especially because I need to change in this area!
Thanks, and I look forward to anyone's thoughts!
I also confess that I am guilty of this, mostly in person (online I have more time to reflect and realize I'm responding inappropriately). My parents frequently argue, and I find that I often argue with the same kind of anger that they do! I'm ashamed to say that my disagreements with my parents often result in my saying some angry words, stewing in my anger, and then realizing my guilt and wrong in how I responded. Yet I seem to get into a pattern even though I am ashamed, and find I am needing to apologize for my behavior a lot these days. It helps me to realize that my response is not their fault, but shows that there is something in me (selfishness, pride, insecurity) that reflects in my needlessly angry responses. Yet still I don't respond rightly most of the time.
So my question is, how can we speak to each other, in general, about strong disagreements but still meet each other in the middle? Both online and in person. What does it take to be able to disagree strongly and express that disagreement respectfully and lovingly? Why is it so hard to do this sometimes?
I am genuinely interested to hear some advice on this, most especially because I need to change in this area!
Thanks, and I look forward to anyone's thoughts!