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Neckelehamiah

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Hey, guys!

I posted before asking for prayers for my Nana. She had a biopsy done and she was coughing up blood.

She got her results back today. It's stage 1 small cell lung cancer.
She had breast cancer before and she continued to smoke.

Small cell lung cancer is most often caused by smoking.

I'm really worried about her. But at the same time I am angry.

We begged her to stop smoking after the cancer. She didn't listen. She bad mouthed the doctors the whole time she was in the hospital after this biopsy- blaming them for everything that was happening. Then she went home and started smoking less than 2 hours after she took of the oxygen. Mind you, she was and is still doing breathing treatments twice a day. She's supposed to be doing them 4 times a day, but she said she won't do it. So two is better than none in her mind.

Then I went to spend the day with her on Monday and she was blaming the doctors for the breathing treatment causing her to cough. She did the treatment while I was there and was fine. Until she started smoking. At this point, I have done everything I can to get her not to. I just let it happen. Arguing just causes problems anymore...

So after the cigarette she starts coughing for the first time since I got there (almost 3 hours after I got there) and she blames it on the doctors because she got the biopsy done.

I can't feel bad for her. I just can't.

But I am worried. I do care about her. And I do love her so much. Which is why I frankly am furious.

Sorry for turning this into a rant. I just needed to let it out :)

Prayers would be greatly appreciated if you have time. Thanks so much!
 

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Heavenly Father, I am reminded of those times when you save people when they attempt to end their lives unsuccessfully.

To the glory of your name, kindly heal this person in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

So be it.
 
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I nust found out myeloma, level four. That's pretty much the end of the line.
Yourself? My aunt had a rare stage four cancer and she went through some experimental treatments and chemotherapy and she's completely fine and still going strong now two years later! I don't think the treatments even caused her to lose much hair...

So don't give up hope. Explore all the possibilities out there you can find. I pray you find healing and God gives you many more years.
 
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I'm sorry about your Nana's smoking and cancer.
Two of my grandparents and my mother died young because of their smoking addictions.
My grandmother was rushed to the ER when I was about 10, because she couldn't catch a breath. When my father and I went to visit her, she turned to me and begged me to never smoke. She described how bad her addiction was: that even though she couldn't breathe, she was sucking down a cigarette as fast as she could, knowing that she wouldn't be able to smoke in the hospital. She was diagnosed with emphysema and suffered with it for ten years before she finally died.
My grandfather, her husband, was in total denial. His response to my sister asking him to stop smoking was the classic "I can quit anytime". It wasn't true, of course. He had a heart attack at 55 and was gone suddenly.
My mother got cancer at 62 because of her smoking addiction. In the hospital, they gave her a nicotine patch. Within a week, she was clean. She said that if she'd known it was going to be that easy to quit, she would have done it many years earlier. Unfortunately, it was too late for Mom. Her cancer was stage 4. She died that year.
I say all of this to help you understand that your grandmother's smoking habit is a very real addiction. Many people say that it's easier to stop using heroine than it is to quit smoking.
It sounds like your Nana doesn't want to face the problem; but her cancer is only at stage 1. If she quits now, she may live.
If I were you, I would do this: 1. Pray for your grandmother and love her. You may not have her much longer. 2. Understand that her smoking is a true addiction. She has to WANT to quit badly enough to kick a VERY strong demon that has a hold on her life. 3. Encourage her. Offer to help her quit. Suggest that she try the patch, maybe. 4. If she will not try to quit smoking, enjoy the time you have with her, talk with her about Jesus, do your best to be honest but loving.
I will be happy to pray for her and you right now too. <3
 
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