I have been friends with my best friend for almost 30 years, since we were in preschool. She is getting married and I will be in her wedding party. She has two sisters who are her matrons of honor and they are planning her bachelorette party coming up... and there’s talk of a stripper. My friend is unsaved, but I am a married Christian woman, and now I don’t know what to do. Other than the stripper, it sounds like the bachelorette party is not meant to be an overly wild event. There’s a plan for a wine tasting tour out in the country and then a stay at an AirBNB. I want to be there for her because she is the longest friend I have, but I also don’t want to be there with a stripper. Is there a delicate way to handle this?
I came up with about a dozen jokes on this, but then decided not.
I support the direct method.... I'm a Christian, and I'm married. I will not take part in this. I appreciate the offer, but I'll pass.
Yeah, it might get some people miffed at you.... but so what? You just became a witness to each of them, that you are a moral Christian woman, and that your faith means something.
Who knows, you might even save the soul of one of these pagan people, who realizes that your faith isn't just a joke.
The biggest criticism of Christians is that they never practice what they preach. There are two reasons why they think this.
One: The fake Christians who say "yeah I'm a Christian" and yet live like pagans.
Two: The real Christians who never live out their faith in public. They never say "I can't do this because I'm a Christian".
Instead they find ways to handle it delicately, so no one is offended. Muslims never do that, and that's why Islam is growing in the US. When Ramadan is here, they say openly "I can't eat. It's Ramadan". When the company buys a pepperoni pizza for all the employees, they say openly "I can't eat pork. I'm Muslim".
They stand for their faith, and people respect them for it.
So my view is, Christians need to stand for their faith more than we have been. If you can't go to this party because it violates your religious convictions, say so. If you lose a friend for standing for Christ, so be it.
That's my advice.
If you want to just keep it quiet, then go to the part until the stripper shows up and leave. But I think you should do the first option.