Problem with Best Friend’s Bachelorette Party

Maybe skip the part with the stripper, and attend the rest of the night?

Let her/her sisters know that you want to be there for her, but you are not comfortable with having a stripper there. See if you can negotiate the stripper's complete absence, or to limit when he/she will be there to a time that you can skip, either leaving early or arriving late, while still enabling you to participate in the majority of the party.

BTW, strippers are not at all necessary for bachelor parties. A perfectly good time can be had by all without them, and I have been to bachelor parties that proved it. If the guys can enjoy themselves without strippers, so can the gals IMO.

What does your husband think you should do? (I'm assuming he's a believer)

You could make an alternate suggestion or gum up the works by pointing out how much strippers cost.

You could casually mention the stripper angle to your friend's fiancee. He might have an opinion about that. Then again, who knows these days?

Honesty is never a bad policy. You could tell them you have moral opposition to strippers. Be ready to get shot down though. Because people can get a bit territorial about this stuff. "It's MY wedding day" and all that.

It may be that you'll have to excuse yourself before the stripper shows up.

Just be upfront that you will not be there for thestripper. Schedule a facial or something else in town so you don't even have to be there.

Maybe find out who's idea the male stripper is. If it's not your friends idea the she may not exactly be comfortable with it either. Even unbelievers sometimes have morals in those areas. If it's not her idea then maybe she can tell whoever's idea it was that she doesn't want one..

Once you see the stripper, you can excuse yourself and leave the venue for a while. If you don't think you can stand the thought of having a stripper over, then don't attend it. Let your friend know why you'll not be attending her party but promise to attend other events as scheduled. Pray for your friend and her sisters, God bless

SusieNaps said:

I have been friends with my best friend for almost 30 years, since we were in preschool. She is getting married and I will be in her wedding party. She has two sisters who are her matrons of honor and they are planning her bachelorette party coming up... and there’s talk of a stripper. My friend is unsaved, but I am a married Christian woman, and now I don’t know what to do. Other than the stripper, it sounds like the bachelorette party is not meant to be an overly wild event. There’s a plan for a wine tasting tour out in the country and then a stay at an AirBNB. I want to be there for her because she is the longest friend I have, but I also don’t want to be there with a stripper. Is there a delicate way to handle this?

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I came up with about a dozen jokes on this, but then decided not.

I support the direct method.... I'm a Christian, and I'm married. I will not take part in this. I appreciate the offer, but I'll pass.

Yeah, it might get some people miffed at you.... but so what? You just became a witness to each of them, that you are a moral Christian woman, and that your faith means something.

Who knows, you might even save the soul of one of these pagan people, who realizes that your faith isn't just a joke.

The biggest criticism of Christians is that they never practice what they preach. There are two reasons why they think this.

One: The fake Christians who say "yeah I'm a Christian" and yet live like pagans.

Two: The real Christians who never live out their faith in public. They never say "I can't do this because I'm a Christian".

Instead they find ways to handle it delicately, so no one is offended. Muslims never do that, and that's why Islam is growing in the US. When Ramadan is here, they say openly "I can't eat. It's Ramadan". When the company buys a pepperoni pizza for all the employees, they say openly "I can't eat pork. I'm Muslim".

They stand for their faith, and people respect them for it.

So my view is, Christians need to stand for their faith more than we have been. If you can't go to this party because it violates your religious convictions, say so. If you lose a friend for standing for Christ, so be it.

That's my advice.

If you want to just keep it quiet, then go to the part until the stripper shows up and leave. But I think you should do the first option.