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I have been through so much these past 9 months. So much. I am totally lost and I don't know how to believe again. More accurately, I don't know how to trust again.

If you wouldn't mind reading my short blog entry, I would really appreciate any advice you can give.

I used to be a ministry leader. I suffer from PTSD and have since childhood. I have a really hard time trusting. I just don't know how anymore :)

Here is the link to my blog post:

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It's not too long. Thanks again!
 

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I have been through so much these past 9 months. So much. I am totally lost and I don't know how to believe again. More accurately, I don't know how to trust again.

If you wouldn't mind reading my short blog entry, I would really appreciate any advice you can give.

I used to be a ministry leader. I suffer from PTSD and have since childhood. I have a really hard time trusting. I just don't know how anymore :)

Here is the link to my blog post:

My Story | Christian Forums

It's not too long. Thanks again!

Thank you so much for sharing your story.

As far as faith and trust, I would just be honest with God and tell Him, "Help my unbelief!" (Mark 9:24).

You can also ask the Holy Spirit to take over and build in your heart the faith that you cannot build on your own.

When I am anxious and I "try" to not be anxious on my own, it never works. So I ask the Holy Spirit to bring peace into my heart.
 
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The problem is P.T.S.D makes your feelings of distrust and fear much more intensive and also random. i have suffered from P.T.S.D since i 11 years old and now i'm 59 and these feelings of distrust and fear can still be really strong.

What helped me enormously was to realise that both distrust and fear are good at the right time, but not when it is inappropriate.

For example to distrust someone who lies to you is wise and distrust serves a good function at such times keeping us safe from lies. The same with fear. If you cross the road and then suddenly see a car a few meters away from you racing towards you, then fear comes in handy. It gives us lightening fast reactions and we can jump out of the way faster then if we weren't so alarmed.

However when fear comes when there is nothing to fear, as it does within people who suffer from P.T.S.D so often, then it is best not to believe a thought or feeling coming your way and disbelieve and distrust everything you hear, for fear lies through its teeth and gets us into the most horrible states of being.

i found the truth of God to be the most reliable to help me fighting distrust, anger and fear. For as long as i stay in His loving truth i'm safe and can handle the onslaught. Faith in His loving truth is essential surviving P.T.S.D

The truth of God is as solid as a rock and all my inner upheaval runs dead upon it. For years i ran around fearing and distrusting God - such awful realities living within me instead of His loving truth. For that is the ultimate answer to my questions about change - The bible says what you sow you shall harvest. So if you sow distrust, fear and anger then these are the inner realities you will harvest in your daily life, if on the other hand you sow love, kindness, gentleness, caring, sharing, long suffering and endurance then such inner realities will serve you during your hard times.

Cultivating God's good life over against my bad life has sure worked wonders in my life. For years it looked like i would be a prisoner of my emotions all my life but Jesus has set me free in His love and giving me the ability to hold onto His loving truth during times of anxiety, distrust or anger.

i found that good counselling has also really helped me understand where to bring my strongest gone haywire emotions and how to best deal with them. i found that almost all the emotional pain i was suffering was because i wasn't walking in the truth of God in such a part of my life. i sure was divided within because of the trauma i suffered, letting Jesus bring me back together again has been a wonderful experience.

So please don't despair your fear or distrust. Lear to go to Jesus during such times and ask Him to help you stay in His loving truth. Honest He is great! Rebuilding us stronger than fear or distrust or any other raw emotion can throw at us.

Be of good courage.

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Your emptiness to fill with hope and faith in God's love
for forgiving yourself is not as easy as doing it wrong,
denying the accuser to blast you with his unholy fire,
eating Christ's flesh and drinking His blood instead,
pursuing peace so you can dwell at ease in His Rest.

Only ever trusting Truly Good to fix gone Badly Wrong,
leaving this numbered and demanding life behind for good,
practising grace so you will never again lack His guidance
faithfully loving truthfully enters the narrow gate of Heaven,
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That's a rough time.

It's definitely worth coming back and staying back. I'm reminded of my campus ministry leader in my college years who was mostly blind. And of one of my best friends from those years leaving the Lord (to the extent possible) and coming back years later. You have a future in the Christian faith. It's worth putting in the work to rebuild your faith, better than it was.

When it comes to trusting the Lord, one of the first things anyone has to do is manage their own expectations. Compare what you were expecting to what God promises. Only bank on what he promises. There was a time in my life when I failed to do that, and it was very bad for my faith. Whether you've likewise failed to do that or not, this is not a mistake you can afford to make now.
 
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I have been through so much these past 9 months. So much. I am totally lost and I don't know how to believe again. More accurately, I don't know how to trust again.

If you wouldn't mind reading my short blog entry, I would really appreciate any advice you can give.

I used to be a ministry leader. I suffer from PTSD and have since childhood. I have a really hard time trusting. I just don't know how anymore :)

Here is the link to my blog post:

My Story | Christian Forums

It's not too long. Thanks again!

I can't begin to know how you feel going thru all this pain. You will be in my prayers for sure for guidance and protection.

Having a hard time trusting, that I do know. My emotional pain landed me buried in emotional walls I put up to protect myself. After a number of years of it, becomes obvious that the walls become a prison instead of a place of safety. Oh man struggled, I wanted to be left alone and create stuff to sell in a shop or be a programmer. I was not gifted for any of it, and my talents require people's problems. I wanted nothing to do with people, but I needed them to feel alive again. Lord has to help me forgive the people who hurt me, and help me let go of stuff I been carrying for years. I am doing better, but I still am somewhat anti social.

All I got to say brother is don't try to figure it all out right now. Take it one step, one day at a time. Lord God is really good at taking all things, and I do mean all things that happen in our lives and making them for good. We don't see it as the process works itself out.

"He has made everything beautiful and appropriate in its time. He has also planted eternity [a sense of divine purpose] in the human heart [a mysterious longing which nothing under the sun can satisfy, except God]—yet man cannot find out (comprehend, grasp) what God has done (His overall plan) from the beginning to the end." -Ecclesiastes 3:11 AMP
 
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The problem is P.T.S.D makes your feelings of distrust and fear much more intensive and also random. i have suffered from P.T.S.D since i 11 years old and now i'm 59 and these feelings of distrust and fear can still be really strong.

What helped me enormously was to realise that both distrust and fear are good at the right time, but not when it is inappropriate.

For example to distrust someone who lies to you is wise and distrust serves a good function at such times keeping us safe from lies. The same with fear. If you cross the road and then suddenly see a car a few meters away from you racing towards you, then fear comes in handy. It gives us lightening fast reactions and we can jump out of the way faster then if we weren't so alarmed.

However when fear comes when there is nothing to fear, as it does within people who suffer from P.T.S.D so often, then it is best not to believe a thought or feeling coming your way and disbelieve and distrust everything you hear, for fear lies through its teeth and gets us into the most horrible states of being.

i found the truth of God to be the most reliable to help me fighting distrust, anger and fear. For as long as i stay in His loving truth i'm safe and can handle the onslaught. Faith in His loving truth is essential surviving P.T.S.D

The truth of God is as solid as a rock and all my inner upheaval runs dead upon it. For years i ran around fearing and distrusting God - such awful realities living within me instead of His loving truth. For that is the ultimate answer to my questions about change - The bible says what you sow you shall harvest. So if you sow distrust, fear and anger then these are the inner realities you will harvest in your daily life, if on the other hand you sow love, kindness, gentleness, caring, sharing, long suffering and endurance then such inner realities will serve you during your hard times.

Cultivating God's good life over against my bad life has sure worked wonders in my life. For years it looked like i would be a prisoner of my emotions all my life but Jesus has set me free in His love and giving me the ability to hold onto His loving truth during times of anxiety, distrust or anger.

i found that good counselling has also really helped me understand where to bring my strongest gone haywire emotions and how to best deal with them. i found that almost all the emotional pain i was suffering was because i wasn't walking in the truth of God in such a part of my life. i sure was divided within because of the trauma i suffered, letting Jesus bring me back together again has been a wonderful experience.

So please don't despair your fear or distrust. Lear to go to Jesus during such times and ask Him to help you stay in His loving truth. Honest He is great! Rebuilding us stronger than fear or distrust or any other raw emotion can throw at us.

Be of good courage.

Thanks so much for this! You are an inspiration. There are so many words I could put here as a response, but I don't have the time- it would take years!

It is wonderful to know that I am not alone. And even greater to know that there is hope out there.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you :)
 
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I can't begin to know how you feel going thru all this pain. You will be in my prayers for sure for guidance and protection.

Having a hard time trusting, that I do know. My emotional pain landed me buried in emotional walls I put up to protect myself. After a number of years of it, becomes obvious that the walls become a prison instead of a place of safety. Oh man struggled, I wanted to be left alone and create stuff to sell in a shop or be a programmer. I was not gifted for any of it, and my talents require people's problems. I wanted nothing to do with people, but I needed them to feel alive again. Lord has to help me forgive the people who hurt me, and help me let go of stuff I been carrying for years. I am doing better, but I still am somewhat anti social.

All I got to say brother is don't try to figure it all out right now. Take it one step, one day at a time. Lord God is really good at taking all things, and I do mean all things that happen in our lives and making them for good. We don't see it as the process works itself out.

"He has made everything beautiful and appropriate in its time. He has also planted eternity [a sense of divine purpose] in the human heart [a mysterious longing which nothing under the sun can satisfy, except God]—yet man cannot find out (comprehend, grasp) what God has done (His overall plan) from the beginning to the end." -Ecclesiastes 3:11 AMP

Thank you so much for this! Funny thing is I was reading Ecclesiastes 4 last night. Only, I didn't even think to look at chapter 3. I will check that out today at some point. Not that I haven't read that book front to back a thousand times ;)

Thanks again! Hope to see you around!
 
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The miracle of grace is that God loves you. Though you may fall so hard, you will eventually fall into the arms of your loving Father. When Jesus said, “I love you,” He did not say, I love you only when you’re good or when you love me back or when you’re spiritual or when you’re strong or victorious in life. No, not at all. He said I love you, and I love you all the time and all the way to eternity.

At age 20, George Matheson (1842-1906) was engaged to be married but began going blind. When he broke the news to his fiancee, she decided she could not go through life with a blind man, so she left him. He went blind while studying for ministry, and his sister had been the one to care for him through the years.

Twenty years later, his sister was about to get married, and so he was facing the prospect of living the rest of his life without the one person who had come through for him. On top of this, his sister’s marriage brought a fresh reminder of his own heartbreak. It was in the midst of this circumstance and intense sadness that the Lord gave Matheson a song which He apparently wrote completely in just five minutes without any retouch or correction. It was a song that tells about the steadfast love of God:

“O Love That Wilt Not Let Me Go“

To trust in the Lord with all your heart is the mark of strength. Lean not on your own understanding. In all Your ways acknowledge Him. God bless.
 
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