Reconciliation when someone might not remember an offense

No, The reconciliation would be to get it off your mind.....as it is likely off theirs already. As long as you have doubt in your heart concerning this issue, you might as well stay away from the alter.... Seems like a simple thing to do to calm ones spirit.......

MercyandFaith said:

Long story short: Matthew says to reconcile with offended people before bringing sacrifice to altar. However, in my instance, I never apologized, however I think it is likely that the offended party (in my situation) does not even remember the grievance anymore or at all, even though the issue has been weighing on my mind. In that situation, would Scripture allow for a "let what is buried stay buried" approach and just move on?

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Are you reconciled ?

Sounds like they have forgiven you.

This happens many times with my wife. Sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lie.

However, ... do as the Spirit leads ...

MercyandFaith said:

Long story short: Matthew says to reconcile with offended people before bringing sacrifice to altar. However, in my instance, I never apologized, however I think it is likely that the offended party (in my situation) does not even remember the grievance anymore or at all, even though the issue has been weighing on my mind. In that situation, would Scripture allow for a "let what is buried stay buried" approach and just move on?

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Reconciliation is not always possible.
The other person may not even WISH to reconcile.

Reconciliation is different from forgiveness.
We read language from 2,000 years ago and try to adapt it to today's language.

Jesus requires that you FORGIVE a person. This means that you must forgive everyone, eventually, even though it might take time.

RECONCILIATION means you become buddy buddy with the person again. What if they other person doesn't want to be your buddy anymore?
This is why I say that sometimes reconciliation is not possible, but forgiveness always is.

You're required to forgive...not to reconcile; although that would be ideal.

Forgiveness is a one-way street.
Reconciliation is a two-way street.
And sometimes that street is closed.

Forgive the person and be at peace.
Your priest/pastor would tell you the same.

Alistair Begg had a good sermon about this on the radio this week.

if the relationship with this person is okay, why dig up old bones? Confess your sin to God and move on

MercyandFaith said:

Long story short: Matthew says to reconcile with offended people before bringing sacrifice to altar. However, in my instance, I never apologized, however I think it is likely that the offended party (in my situation) does not even remember the grievance anymore or at all, even though the issue has been weighing on my mind. In that situation, would Scripture allow for a "let what is buried stay buried" approach and just move on?

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That is generally what I would do.

What you could do, is meet with a pastor, or someone in the Church, and confess what you do, and pray to G-d for forgiveness.

But I would not track the person down, who is happy and moved on, and the remind them of something bad again.

I just do not see a point in that myself.

Unless G-d is giving you some clear sign that you should go and tell the person what you do, and ask forgiveness, I would just move on with my life. If you feel the need to confess, then confess to someone. I've done that. I made a confession to an church member.

MercyandFaith said:

Interesting, thanks, can I find that sermon on YouTube, if you have a link?

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Forgiven and Forgiving(part 3)
It is on YouTube but I can't copy and paste from my phone.

gym_class_hero said:

Alistair Begg had a good sermon about this on the radio this week.

if the relationship with this person is okay, why dig up old bones? Confess your sin to God and move on

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I agree "sometimes it's best not to dig up the bones of old dogs, and chickens"

MercyandFaith said:

Long story short: Matthew says to reconcile with offended people before bringing sacrifice to altar. However, in my instance, I never apologized, however I think it is likely that the offended party (in my situation) does not even remember the grievance anymore or at all, even though the issue has been weighing on my mind. In that situation, would Scripture allow for a "let what is buried stay buried" approach and just move on?

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Well, the 12 steps program would say to make amends unless doing so would hurt the person.

These issues are tough though because they really never end, I know I have hurt many people in my life, probably more than I can count. If the person is not a part of your life now, then I would move on, chances are they have moved on.

The choice is yours though.