Is it non Christian like of me to post pictures of me and my bf kissing on facebook?

Will your future husband be happy with you kissing some other guy and even posting it on internet?

If yes, you can do that. If not, dont.

I wouldn't. That's personal, physical, romantic behavior, which should probably not be broadcast on Facebook.

I have found, too, that "Facebook anxiety" is a real thing. To post or not to post? To like or not to like? How many likes do I have? Why would they write that?

Whereas real life exchanges are usually not that dramatic, or tense. If FB is causing you anxiety, or worry, why not give it a break? At least a small one. You might feel better! Try calling, texting, or writing friends and family instead.

baptistgirl21 said:

I'm just wondering what you all think when you see someone who is a Christian posting pictures of themselves kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend on facebook. I was told by a Christian that it's trashy and Christians shouldn't do that but I do because I love my boyfriend. It's not like we are doing anything we shouldn't be doing but I was told that Christians don't believe that when they see those pictures and that I should stop before my good name is ruined. It's just one out of 9 photos of me kissing. It's not like I post kissing photos every single day. I only see my boyfriend every 2 week and I don't care what people think of me because the bible says I shouldn't. But I was told by another Christian that we should worry, which is kinda the exact opposite of what my therapist is trying to help me with. Anxiety. What do you think? Am I setting a bad example by posting 1 photo of me kissing? My pastor does it, why can't I?

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I would not. I think it's tacky and bad form. Your pastor is acting strangely in my opinion.

Further, I don't even like the idea of kissing much, before you are married. Kissing shouldn't be something so cheap, that you do it with people you are not even married to.

You say you love your boyfriend, and that's fine... but keep in mind, a boy friend.... is a friend... that is a boy. A boy-friend, is not a husband. You don't have a ceremony for a 'boy friend' because it is nothing important. You don't exchange vows with a boy-friend, because there is nothing to vow. "I pledge to be a friend, while being a boy", is not a vow.

You should keep kissing and physical affection for people you are engaged to, or married to. Because that is actually something special, and worth celebrating.

Lastly, and I can't explain this... but I've seen it hundreds of times. People that feel the need to post to everyone how much they love someone, rarely last. The relationship falls apart.

Why is this? I do not know. I'm just telling you, the more someone has to post 50 pictures of themselves making out with someone, the more they are separated in a year or two.

It's almost as if, they are trying to convince everyone else, of what they themselves know isn't true. Like the relationship isn't really that deep, but they want to believe it is, so they convince everyone else it is, so they can keep the myth alive.

So that's my advice. You can do what you want, but I would not be posting pictures of you making out with your boyfriend. It makes the relationship cheap, and it's tacky.

baptistgirl21 said:

I'm just wondering what you all think when you see someone who is a Christian posting pictures of themselves kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend on facebook. I was told by a Christian that it's trashy and Christians shouldn't do that but I do because I love my boyfriend.

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Some people would consider it trashy, but that doesn't make the people who are pictured be non-Christians. However, it is a good idea not to give offense to other people unnecessarily, even when what you are doing isn't wrong in itself.

The trick is to decide when the line would be crossed in the opinion of reasonable people. This event might be close to that line.

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Most christians seem a bit awkward about seeing a couple posting kissing pics on FB. Even more so if the couple isn't married yet. I probably wouldn't post them only because as a christian it will get rumors and speculation floating around everywhere.

When I seen a picture of my wifes cousin kissing (she's like 16) kissing her BF on the lips I was shaking my head in disbelief. And a few months later we found out she got pregnant, so obviously the kissing lead to other things.

I mean I don't think in general kissing when not married is a good thing. A single kiss turns on chemicals in the body that elevates you to a "happy place" which often means it elevates the odds of having sex. Trust me on this. You may not have had sex yet from kissing but the more you do, the odds will get higher. More so if alone with him.

In the end young people often ignore the stuff about "Listen to your elders, they have wisdom" because when young we think we know better or can control ourselves better than someone who is older. Looking back I should have listened to so many people.

I couldn't nor wouldn't but that's just me...one ugly toad lol, besides, I've never been in with the IN Crowd...
2 Timothy 3:1-2 KJV
[1] This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. [2] For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

I am also sure that it is possible to show the two of these persons looking like they are in love without picturing any actual kissing.

One or two people in my church have questioned whether anyone should post anything on Facebook at all! Not saying that's my opinion, but it has been said by some.

baptistgirl21 said:

I'm just wondering what you all think when you see someone who is a Christian posting pictures of themselves kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend on facebook. I was told by a Christian that it's trashy and Christians shouldn't do that but I do because I love my boyfriend. It's not like we are doing anything we shouldn't be doing but I was told that Christians don't believe that when they see those pictures and that I should stop before my good name is ruined. It's just one out of 9 photos of me kissing. It's not like I post kissing photos every single day. I only see my boyfriend every 2 week and I don't care what people think of me because the bible says I shouldn't. But I was told by another Christian that we should worry, which is kinda the exact opposite of what my therapist is trying to help me with. Anxiety. What do you think? Am I setting a bad example by posting 1 photo of me kissing? My pastor does it, why can't I?

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Frankly, I’m disgusted by what most post on social media. However, in your case, if your heart says it’s wrong, go with it. Why showcase yourself making out? It’s just weird to me and rather narcissistic. However, the choice is yours.

baptistgirl21 said:

I'm just wondering what you all think when you see someone who is a Christian posting pictures of themselves kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend on facebook. I was told by a Christian that it's trashy and Christians shouldn't do that but I do because I love my boyfriend. It's not like we are doing anything we shouldn't be doing but I was told that Christians don't believe that when they see those pictures and that I should stop before my good name is ruined. It's just one out of 9 photos of me kissing. It's not like I post kissing photos every single day. I only see my boyfriend every 2 week and I don't care what people think of me because the bible says I shouldn't. But I was told by another Christian that we should worry, which is kinda the exact opposite of what my therapist is trying to help me with. Anxiety. What do you think? Am I setting a bad example by posting 1 photo of me kissing? My pastor does it, why can't I?

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The world sees everything completely differently than the citizens of heaven (Ekklesia) do. They live differently every day, and have no care for the things of God nor of Righteousness nor of His Kingdom.
Who has a "good name" today? Who is healing the sick, raising the dead, comforting the sick , feeding the poor and taking in to their own home the homeless ?

Different systems look at all this differently than God does.

"ALL" things are seen differently ....

I really don't think there's anything wrong with a kissing picture on social media depending on it's context. Some people just get carried away and read into anything. Everyone has an opinion. If you aren't doing anything wrong or illegal in the photo then it's probably fine.

Showing a kissing picture might mean you are insecure and you want everyone to know you have a SO. OR it might mean people that object are insecure and have issues and feel jealous. OR it might not be any deeper than you liked the picture and you love your b/f so you posted it. As a Christian there are far worse things you could post a picture of yourself doing. I don't think I've ever seen a picture of people just plainly kissing on FB and questioned their faith or witness/ married or not. Even married, PDA is often a sign of immaturity and attention seeking, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that just a photo of a kiss means that is what is going on here.

Andy_S said:

One or two people in my church have questioned whether anyone should post anything on Facebook at all! Not saying that's my opinion, but it has been said by some.

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Good point, as noted also by internet police/authorities.

The system is used every day to bilk millions of dollars from thousands or from millions of unwary users.

Every day.

Eventually everything posted on the internet (including co-called christian forums) can
and might be used against the poster, or the ones pictured / posted about.

The enemies do not stop, but are continually searching the web, using web-crawlers/ sphyders/ etc on every site they can
to find, record, save, analyze information about everyone, to use when it suits them,
or to
sell to others who can use it for purposes very wrong.

Some Christians seem to want to turn Christianity into a form of Victorian extreme prudishness... I think those folks are out to lunch. If a person can't enjoy a young couples delight in one another, I think they've got something wrong in their head. And sure, maybe yall might break up at some point, or maybe you wont, but this is a part of your life. Why not save it? I found some photos of old GFs from my younger years after my Dad passed away. They brought back some nifty memories.

Then again, I'm like the old guy in Its a Wonderful Like who yells from the porch to Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed that youth is wasted on the young.

As far as facebook use goes, if its causing you anxiety, you should probably try and take a step back from it and re-evaluate how you are using it. Maybe you will return to what you are doing, maybe you will take an extended break. There is no wrong answer, as long as you've reflected on whether its a net positive or negative and act on your reflection appropriately.

baptistgirl21 said:

My pastor doesn't post pictures of me kissing my bf, but pictures of him and his wife.

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That's different because they are married and it's permanent. Are you going to marry your current boyfriend? If not, you may regret posting this photo later when you marry someone else.

Sometimes it can be done tastefully. I don't see why it would be sinful in that case.

Married people tend not do post those. I imagine it is because it's part of their daily routine before they head off to work, and not a huge enough deal to make a post of.

baptistgirl21 said:

I'm just wondering what you all think when you see someone who is a Christian posting pictures of themselves kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend on facebook. I was told by a Christian that it's trashy and Christians shouldn't do that but I do because I love my boyfriend. It's not like we are doing anything we shouldn't be doing but I was told that Christians don't believe that when they see those pictures and that I should stop before my good name is ruined. It's just one out of 9 photos of me kissing. It's not like I post kissing photos every single day. I only see my boyfriend every 2 week and I don't care what people think of me because the bible says I shouldn't. But I was told by another Christian that we should worry, which is kinda the exact opposite of what my therapist is trying to help me with. Anxiety. What do you think? Am I setting a bad example by posting 1 photo of me kissing? My pastor does it, why can't I?

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Bible says love one another, and if that's the case, then it seems ok to post those pictures on fb. But just be careful.