virgin Christian males

JohnyPoppacapolis said:

Most people interested in me are underage so it's not like I have a lot of options here.
But even if I did have the option I would stay a virgin simply because I feel it is the better choice socially and morally.

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you have options
it is just... some of those options are more illegal then other...

I am not saying that having sex with an underage girl is moral, or a good idea in any way
I am just saying it is an option

Fortunately for me I got scared straight.
There was this smokin' hot chick all over me, we came oooooh so close, but mom came home.
The next day I was talking to this guy about her and he freaked out "DUDE, Dude!!! She gave Colton herpes!!!!".

Scared the crap out of me.

ekelly16 said:

Hi everyone

I know that today in society, it is very common today for youth both female and male to not be virgins, however, I was wondering, within the Christian society, there a quite a few females that are virgins, which i was suprised about. My question to everybody, especially the male's... ' what is the same percentage of christians males being virgins, or do you struggle with the worldly peer presure of sex and give in?'

I would love to hear your thoughts

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Am technically a virgin, though I don't consider myself 100% sexually "pure" by Christian standards. Jesus said that if you look at a girl to lust after her you've committed a form of adultery, so with standards that high I don't think technicalities matter as much in God's eyes; God draws the line way before intercourse takes place. I've fallen short of that mark so I'm not going to blow my own trumpet about how morally superior I am to those other men that shag different women every weekend or whatever.

I could care less about what other people think of my lack of sexual experience. I do get sexually frustrated at times being celibate, but it's not really something I'm ashamed of. It's my life.

I love meeting guys who are virgins, they are so rare. In my autism group, there are two guys who have never had a girlfriend or date or anything before, but they're not Christians.

Rhamiel said:

you have options
it is just... some of those options are more illegal then other...

I am not saying that having sex with an underage girl is moral, or a good idea in any way
I am just saying it is an option

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... Good to know. I'll keep that in mind next time.

Saucy said:

I'd say it's 50/50. We like to put stats on things, but really when you stop to think about it, it takes two to tango. So for every man who has had sex, there's also a woman who has had sex as well.

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Not necessarily. Maybe all men had sex with the same woman.
Regarding the question, I wasn't a virgin when I became Christian.

Worldly pressure in regards to the topic of sex is over-rated. I never understood this whole 'pressure' thing.

Crypto said:

Not necessarily. Maybe all men had sex with the same woman.

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Ha! So true... I think it would be interesting if someone put together some actual, reliable stats on this sort of subject. It would probably need to be divided by age group, too, through anonymous surveys conducted throughout the youth population of various denominations.

I'd probably divide it up so - Ages 13-15, Ages 16-19, Ages 20-25.

And there should probably be some option included for the older end of that range to the effect of, "If you are now married but were a virgin at the time of marriage, check yes."

It might even be interested to poll the entire church, all within age groups right up to the oldest members, as that would reveal male versus female virginity as it has changed throughout the years compared to now.

Now, granted, I can't for the life of me think of any practical use for such a survey... but the results would be informative, and it might surprise us if the results were not as expected.

Personally, I was a virgin at the time of my marriage. My ex-husband was not. I've been celibate since my ex-husband left me, but he has not. Neither was he faithful during our marriage.

I have three brothers. My older brother remained a virgin until marriage. My two younger brothers did not. In our family, it seems very age-related to me. My older brother and I were raised with certain standards, and we adhered to those standards. This wasn't just about being taught no dating and no sex... because honestly, the subject of sex and dating never even came up to my knowledge. But just the daily standards of our lives were vastly different from our younger siblings. My older brother and I were required to do chores, call adults Mrs. and Mr., not talk back to grown-ups, ask permission for things, and mind our manners. Our younger siblings were given almost complete free reign to do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, and they never did chores or had any similar obligations placed on them. I am NOT saying that lack of structure in a child's life leads to sexual promiscuity, though. I'm just pointing out that our family's culture was radically different for my younger brothers than it was for my older brother and myself, which I think contributed to their sexual decisions more so than the fact of our opposite genders. One of them has had four sexual partners, including his wife now. The other has only had one, who then became his wife after he got her pregnant when they were both teenagers.

Pretty much am a virgin. All 50 years of my life. It's not that I don't want sex. It's that I don't want to use people for sex, don't want to get unmarried women pregnant, and don't want to get a disease. And besides that, I have a mental illness and a social phobia around people.