How to put someone in his/her place the christian way?

Zhivko said:

I mean like when someone tries to smash or destroy your self-esteem.

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Oh, that one. Never happened to me before.

Zhivko said:

I mean like when someone tries to smash or destroy your self-esteem.

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What exactly are you talking about here?

If someone is puffing himself up, as Dave-W said it may be a matter of shielding his own feeling of low esteem...or his "high opinion of himself" might actually be justified.

But that's not the same thing as him doing something expressly to crush your self-esteem.

Which is the case? Is he just puffing himself up and you feel your esteem is harmed in his presence, or is he actually doing something to diminish your self-esteem?

Zhivko said:

Sometimes someone is trying to diminish my self-esteem in order to look bigger than me. I don't like that.

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That does not tell me what is actually happening. Please provide an actual example.

And even when someone is puffing himself up I can feel my esteem harmed.

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That sounds like a personal problem requiring prayer. Do you feel your esteem is harmed when you see someone drive by in an expensive car?

Your self-esteem as a Christian should be based on whether you're being a fruitful steward of what Christ has given you. Talk to the Lord about that. Nobody else's actions should affect it.

The two-talent steward held the same esteem in his master's eyes as the five-talent steward, for both were doing their best with what they'd been given.

Zhivko said:

One guy from the chruch I used to go said he is more beatiful and smarter than me, which harmed me because he is not beautifil or smart at all.

One woman from the church I used to go said something to me that I don't remeber well but it was like I was an idiot and a slob. Like I was at her feet. But she is just an ordinary woman and I felt my self-esteem crushed.

There are a few more such situatuions that someone wants to deminish my self-esteem in order for him/her to look like something more than me and I get really annoyed.

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You are either way too sensitive or you are going to the wrong churches.

Zhivko said:

One guy from the chruch I used to go said he is more beatiful and smarter than me, which harmed me because he is not beautifil or smart at all.

One woman from the church I used to go said something to me that I don't remeber well but it was like I was an idiot and a slob. Like I was at her feet. But she is just an ordinary woman and I felt my self-esteem crushed.

There are a few more such situatuions that someone wants to deminish my self-esteem in order for him/her to look like something more than me and I get really annoyed.

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Are you saying that these persons pointed at you and said, "I'm smarter than that guy over there?" Are you saying that they directly and personally compared themselves favorably to you?

Zhivko said:

In my life I often encounter with people, that have a huge self confidence backed up by nothing. They are just ordinary people, not rich or smart or beautiful, but they think of themselves as smart and/or beautiful. They get me really annoyed. How to deal with these people? How to put them in their place the christian way? My idea is to calmly say the truth with love - "You are not what you think you are". What are your opinions?

Or even if they are rich or smart or beautiful or all of these combined, I don't think it's a reason to consider oneself as something more than the others. What to say to such people? How to deal with them?

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Hard in practice, but this is what Jesus taught His apostles, (and us, for that matter in the Gospels)

Romans 12:14 Bestow a blessing on those who persecute you; a blessing, not a curse.15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with the mourner. 16 Live in harmony of mind, falling in with the opinions of common folk, instead of following conceited thoughts; never give yourselves airs of wisdom.

17 Do not repay injury with injury; study your behaviour in the world’s sight as well as in God’s. 18 Keep peace with all men, where it is possible, for your part.19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved; allow retribution to run its course; so we read in scripture, Vengeance is for me, I will repay, says the Lord. 20 Rather, feed thy enemy if he is hungry, give him drink if he is thirsty; by doing this, thou wilt heap coals of fire upon his head 21 Do not be disarmed by malice; disarm malice with kindness.

Zhivko said:

In my life I often encounter with people, that have a huge self confidence backed up by nothing. They are just ordinary people, not rich or smart or beautiful, but they think of themselves as smart and/or beautiful. They get me really annoyed. How to deal with these people? How to put them in their place the christian way? My idea is to calmly say the truth with love - "You are not what you think you are". What are your opinions?

Or even if they are rich or smart or beautiful or all of these combined, I don't think it's a reason to consider oneself as something more than the others. What to say to such people? How to deal with them?

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Vengeance is MINE, sayeth the Lord; I shall repay.

It isn't your place to correct someone's inflated sense of self. Pride comes before a fall...that's about as far as you can go, in speaking about it.

It's ok not to be a doormat though. You can tell a person who is hurting you to knock it off.

This whole OP question seems loaded. Who are you to determine what one's "place" is? Maybe if you are an American Idol judge, it is for you to decide one place where it isn't. But not where it is.

You don't become more beautiful by throwing acid in your rival's face; you just become a monster.