I don't think most of us are qualified to offer the kind of assistance that is clearly needed here. I recommend looking elsewhere.
A good therapist would be in order.
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I don't think most of us are qualified to offer the kind of assistance that is clearly needed here. I recommend looking elsewhere.
Jesus sometimes told those He healed miraculously "not to tell anyone". Obviously, it means -- don't make a testimony out of it!
Also told us to not let our good deeds be known (as opposed to what the Pharisees do who "broadcast" their good deeds) and conduct our good deeds in secret.
The problem is obvious. And testimonies could potentially be deceitful in its intent and purpose even though the intent of the speaker is pure and good.
I still think they can be good if you find the right fit. Are they right for everyone? No. But mine has helped me put things in perspective.
Fair enough. I just know that if I listened to certain members on here, I would live in the mental hospital. However, those who have video chatted with me on Skype, know I'm fairly sane.
You and me both, minus the Skype part. I can't listen to every member on here for the sake of my mental health.
Recommending that someone look into that option is better than being an armchair psychologist to a stranger.People recommend therapists way too often on here. Whether or not a person needs one.
Then why share testimonies at all? Especially if a testimony in what God has done is literally central to one's existence?
I would say if that's the kind of attitude you're walking away from church with, maybe both you and that church need to have a round of introspection. General rule of thumb: if a place puts a high price on testimony and it isn't a courtroom, give it a wide berth because that shows it's just subject to the whimsy of whoever the mic is passed to that day.
It sounds like this church isn't imparting any grace, nor does it sound like you have the right idea about what church is meant to be. It's not a soirée. If you want that join the Rotary Club. Sundays are meant to worship God and receive the Sacraments. Full stop.
Maybe think about what your priorities are in your faith.
Jesus sometimes told those He healed miraculously "not to tell anyone". Obviously, it means -- don't make a testimony out of it!
Also told us to not let our good deeds be known (as opposed to what the Pharisees do who "broadcast" their good deeds) and conduct our good deeds in secret.
The problem is obvious. And testimonies could potentially be deceitful in its intent and purpose even though the intent of the speaker is pure and good.
If that is the case, then I would offer this.
Addressing the OP now, it is really easy to justify saying certain things by saying that it is just venting or just our thoughts and opinions, but if your words are crude and offensive, there is no justification for that.
I doubt you will like what I have to say but I want to be straight. It sounds to me like you are the one with the problem, not the pastor or the woman you described. You are allowing the bitterness of your life circumstances to completely color everything else, and the result is that you are actually sort of justifying the situation that you are in. You seem extremely bitter about being lonely and not having friends, but consider for a second, would you want to be friends with someone who you knew could possibly go off and rant to others about you, calling you fat or a prostitute? Because that's what I would be wondering if I were your friend. When you go on these crude, scathing rants, do you really think that causes people to be interested in pursuing friendship with you? And then thing is, you may only do it online, but people in your life can sense that bitterness and desperation, just as they can sense if you are a person who is at peace with their life and exercises gratitude. This bitterness and hatred is only going to keep dragging you down, and these rants will never make you feel better either. What you need is to start accepting the circumstances of your life, that they are what they are, and that only you are responsible for changing them if you so desire. No one is going to do that for you.
Recommending that someone look into that option is better than being an armchair psychologist to a stranger.
Frankly, most people could use one, at least at certain times. It's hard to recommend it "too often."
I wish you healing. I see that you've responded to two of my posts with the Funny reaction. I hope that you're able to talk to someone and take this seriously so that you can find happiness.
People recommend therapists way too often on here. Whether or not a person needs one.
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Hosea 6:6 For I desire steadfast love and not sacrifice, the knowledge of God rather than burnt offerings.
yes, i am current in rock bottom at the moment
so?
yes, if after all the worshiping you have been doing, you still bore bunch of wrong fruits (as you are displaying here), then you might want to do some introspection on what is going wrong with your spiritual life. especially the world and other beginner Christians are watching, they should not be tripped by the type of example you are setting here.
but yes, the body of Christ is suppose to be one of those places where those who are weak and vulnerable should be able to get help instead of being tore down
alternatively, if you want to a church to abide by your personal philosophy, you might want to start worshiping at home and invite a few of your like minded buddies to worship with you.
if you don't want to contribute to others in a positive way, the least you can do is to stay away and keep your tearing down to yourself.
You may be hurting yourself, but I don't think the way you spoke about that woman was justified.
In denouncing her faults you've highlighted a handful of your own. To that end, I'd recommend you don't dwell on the shortcomings of others because the longer you do that the longer you'll be searching for that calm and peace within yourself. Bitterness is bitterness whether it's regarding one's own situation or another's, and it'll eat you up and keep you downtrodden not because of an action, but your reaction to it.
Yes it sounds like she's taking her blessings for granted, but if any change is going to come from that, it isn't by verbally assaulting them directly or indirectly like you did. Think of the people on the street yelling to accept Christ or burn in Hell; how many people do you think they really lead to Christ? Certainly not as many as those that walk past rolling their eyes trying to stifle a laugh. Change occurs in love, compassion, respect and sincerity; exhibit those traits and you'll be far more likely to reach someone's heart because it's more akin to Christ and Christ-likeness; the alternative is being dogmatic, loud and offensive to people that will immediately put them on the defensive and entrench them in their own position because that is the natural response.
Perhaps speak with your Pastor about it and ask for his help and spiritual guidance to help free you up from bitterness and maybe ask him for some Biblical guidelines in how to approach and question conflict, disagreement or particular emotions(envy, anger, frustration, etc), because ultimately it is a process that doesn't come naturally to many people. A lot of people's reaction is, well, reactionary; we very often speak before with think and I believe in instances like this, we really need to think before we speak. Observe the event through a Biblical lens and apply the framework you develop in approaching those sorts of things to break it down, analyse it and determine how best to approach it from a Biblical perspective and hopefully in a way that edifies both parties.
We all stumble. We all have monkeys on our backs that get the better of us sometimes but I firmly believe the action is seldom as important as our reaction to it; if you do wrong, make it right, whether it's the same day or same week, don't be too proud or consumed by another emotion to return to it and do the right thing.
Okay I'm going on and on and on so I'll shut up.