My husband and I have been married for seven years. We have been separated 3 times and currently separated at this time.
He feels as if my daughter (she's 16 from a previous relationship) doesn't respect him. He has also mentioned this to me in the past and I've been working on it but he feels I'm passive and not getting results fast enough.
When I asked him exactly what it is that she does that disrespects him and he said "if I ask her to clean the kitchen or her room, she doesn't do it immediately." I'll be honest, I myself have to tell her more than one time as well before she gets it done. I told my husband that I felt all teens were this way and he said "No, only she is because she is disrepectful and rebellious." He tells me I'm passive for thinking this way and that I should implement "old time good spankings."
I don't agree with him and so he says I'm a wayward rebellious wife and because of this, he doesn't want to live in a home with me or my daughter. We are currently not living together. When I asked him what does he expect for us to do with the marriage if he doesn't want to live in home with me or my daughter and his response "give her to her father, grandparents or anybody....I don't want her living in the home with me".
I am heartbroken by his response and I don't know what to do. My daughters father and I split up when she was 3 years old and they do not have a relationship to this day. My mother is the only grandparent she has and my mother travels with her job and she is away from home 10 to 11 months out of the year. I feel his request is very selfish, unloving and just not fair.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my marriage and I don't want to give my daughter away.
He feels as if my daughter (she's 16 from a previous relationship) doesn't respect him. He has also mentioned this to me in the past and I've been working on it but he feels I'm passive and not getting results fast enough.
When I asked him exactly what it is that she does that disrespects him and he said "if I ask her to clean the kitchen or her room, she doesn't do it immediately." I'll be honest, I myself have to tell her more than one time as well before she gets it done. I told my husband that I felt all teens were this way and he said "No, only she is because she is disrepectful and rebellious." He tells me I'm passive for thinking this way and that I should implement "old time good spankings."
I don't agree with him and so he says I'm a wayward rebellious wife and because of this, he doesn't want to live in a home with me or my daughter. We are currently not living together. When I asked him what does he expect for us to do with the marriage if he doesn't want to live in home with me or my daughter and his response "give her to her father, grandparents or anybody....I don't want her living in the home with me".
I am heartbroken by his response and I don't know what to do. My daughters father and I split up when she was 3 years old and they do not have a relationship to this day. My mother is the only grandparent she has and my mother travels with her job and she is away from home 10 to 11 months out of the year. I feel his request is very selfish, unloving and just not fair.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my marriage and I don't want to give my daughter away.