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I do advise caution indeed. But eating sandwiches with coworkers is really pretty benign and almost inevitable sometimes.
Not to get off track of the original question. If you are just sitting around a break room table eating lunch because you go to lunch at the same time I agree with you. If you are intentionally going to lunch together that is another story.
What we see way to often in our ministry is. A spouse (husband or wife) innocently going to lunch with a co-worker of the opposite sex regularly. There is no intention or harm planned just going to lunch. Occasionally they even had a standing "date" they would go every X day of the week and just chit chat about nothing really., oh so innocent. Occasionally another co-worker would see them and come over and join in.
Then the stories vary but end the same. He had a fight last night, the talk changes from chit chat to I can't believe what my wife did. The other party being sympathetic agrees and they start talking about her problems his problems. Next week she has a major blow up at home. Soon they are confiding in each other rather then their spouses. The spouses become the enemy in this relationship. The lunches become more and more private. They start eating places other co-works don't go so they can have a more private conversation about their issues.
And the ground work for the slide is laid and here you stand at the top ready to jump on that slippery slope. Is that true for every single person. NO but again avoid even the appearance of. If my spouse know I am having lunch they become you accountability partner. If the frequency becomes to much, they become uncomfortable they can so no.
You by know means have to agree. I have been successfully married 27 years and LOVE my wife more today than the day we got married and I was pretty crazy in Love then. I have never had to look my beloved wife in the eye and say anything to break her heart because I let something go to far. If you are going to lunch or any other activity with someone else there is already some level of attraction. You may both just like the same food, but isn't that how dating starts?
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