Crushes..

I have turned off the "crushing" part of my brain

MehGuy said:

What? Dissociation?

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I just discard those thoughts whenever it comes to my mind!!
It's not that difficult.

MehGuy said:

Does anybody else here have trouble developing crushes on people? Like not being able to feel feelings for anybody.

I do. Ever since I was four or five I have noticed this phenomenon. This deficient was especially frustrating when all of my peers and classmates would have no problem developing crushes. Which made me very jealous.

Do you happen to suffer through the same problem?

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I can relate to you here, and I am beginning to think I'm uncrushable. I haven't felt strongly attracted to anyone for some years now. When I was younger I did develop attractions to a few, though that was it. I've never been one to really develop crushes.

Perhaps it will just take meeting the right person for you MehGuy, which I hope will happen for you.

Are you Autistic?

sundewgrower said:

Thanks
I'm a picky person who doesn't trip up easily, but so far this distance, and week break is good so I think/hope it'll be fine now.

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Good. Hope it continues on.

MehGuy said:

Attachment of emotions and feelings? Even if for a day or two. Seems almost impossible for me.

I can understand crushes not being serious, which makes my heart sink even lower. If I cannot even get to the crush stage what are the chances that I'm ever going to be able to get to the life long relationship stage? : ( lol.

The only times I get butterflies over women is when they are hurt, Florence Nightingale syndrome I guess. Like that chick from Back To The Future. But the butterflies are never really about the person or the individual. It would be over any cute girl who is broken or sick.

So I don't think that really counts.

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No one can tell you how or what to feel. If this is how you express feeling, that could very well be a good thing. Crushes aren't the barometer of feeling, really. I think the fact that you have empathy for people should be seen as a positive.

.Mikha'el. said:

I think that becomes less frequent as one becomes more emotionally mature. It has been several years since my last real life crush. Im not even as prone to CF crushes as I used to be.

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See? They told me I was immature and I'm crushing all the time.
Mehguy is just mature.

MehGuy said:

Does anybody else here have trouble developing crushes on people? Like not being able to feel feelings for anybody.

I do. Ever since I was four or five I have noticed this phenomenon. This deficient was especially frustrating when all of my peers and classmates would have no problem developing crushes. Which made me very jealous.

Do you happen to suffer through the same problem?

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"Frustrating" and "problem" are not the key words here.
I mean I don't really trust the people who have 1000 crushes is like makes little difference that is me or another and it also shows how picky someone is and where their standards stand.

I am the same,I don't really develop crushes.

GQ Chris said:

Are you Autistic?

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Apparently if you don't crush on somebody often enough you fall into the autistic spectrum,hey maybe he does not feel empathy and emotions in general.
Oh I know,he suffers of psychopathy!

Sheiriam said:

Apparently if you don't crush on somebody often enough you fall into the autistic spectrum,hey maybe he does not feel empathy and emotions in general.
Oh I know,he suffers of psychopathy!

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Lol

I know that you're all joking, but just for the sake of discussion, lacking empathy and the ability to connect emotionally with others when you're on the Autistic spectrum is a complete myth. In fact, it's only ONE trait that SOME Autistic's get.

Trust me, I should know.

ReesePiece23 said:

I know that you're all joking, but just for the sake of discussion, lacking empathy and the ability to connect emotionally with others when you're on the Autistic spectrum is a complete myth. In fact, it's only ONE trait that SOME Autistic's get. Trust me, I should know.

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I never knew that many people who are autistic can connect with people. Interesting!

ReesePiece23 said:

I know that you're all joking, but just for the sake of discussion, lacking empathy and the ability to connect emotionally with others when you're on the Autistic spectrum is a complete myth. In fact, it's only ONE trait that SOME Autistic's get.

Trust me, I should know.

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Actually from what I have read autism are not lacking empathy,they feel it but they have no idea how to express it,is more a cognitive issue.

Oh gosh. I'm over it mostly (distance, seeing some flaws, playing it cooler now) and know how to take care of this..
She is rather smart, controlled but is sort of melting I guess but is good at hiding it.
If you have been speaking a lot for five months, and really enjoy it then I guess things progress..
I seriously just need to visit later this year if this continues which means visiting this friend and crush of mine that's a 14 hours flight away that I've never met before in person then end up staying there for a month.
Then this mutual crush and friendship. Will turn into I don't know what if I even visit.
Must forget about this, and just let God do whatever he is doing.
Be good friends, both have a bit of a mutual crush that's somewhat hidden, and keep it a certain way for now.

I have never developed a crush on a stranger or an acquaintance. I develop "crushes" on people who I am beginning to feel feelings for and usually am developing some sort of relationship with. I consider it the first stage of love when you still can't rationally see their flaws and you somehow don't think they matter even where you do see them. It is a selfish immature form of love because it is still based on how you "feel". You may do things for the other person but it is still in the phases where you are doing them to make the other person love you.