Hi. I am in a very sick dysfunctional family and I have a grown daughter & 3 grandchildren who lean heavily on me for everything yet are extremely disrespectful towards me. Our family has been marred with alcoholism, drug abuse and you name it from forever but my daughter has been in AA for many years but the co-dependency hasn't stopped.
I realized I had to stop it. My grandchildren's awful behavior towards other family members caused a big family rift & I was horribly disrespected in the midst of it as I defended the innocent parties & was accused of being partial. I stood my ground about their unacceptable behavior I was blamed and ridiculed. Now this is after this family has ruined me financially of course as I was always handy with anything I could do to rescue. My thinking is at my age my grown children or grandchildren shouldn't even be looking at me to rescue them financially but they should be taking care of me, if any care taking is to be done.
My question in this post is, will my heart be able to endure the separation from my grandchildren. I feel like I am going to die from heartbreak. How can I endure this? Am I doing the right thing? I can't be around them without being used by them and I feel they just all stomp on me & take me for granted. This is very painful for me but how else will they learn to stand on their own & show respect to others if they can't even learn to respect their own grandmother? I daydream about running far, far away just to find a little peace. I'm accused of not loving my grandkids but they all just act awful. What can I do? Any help is appreciated.
God Bless
I realized I had to stop it. My grandchildren's awful behavior towards other family members caused a big family rift & I was horribly disrespected in the midst of it as I defended the innocent parties & was accused of being partial. I stood my ground about their unacceptable behavior I was blamed and ridiculed. Now this is after this family has ruined me financially of course as I was always handy with anything I could do to rescue. My thinking is at my age my grown children or grandchildren shouldn't even be looking at me to rescue them financially but they should be taking care of me, if any care taking is to be done.
My question in this post is, will my heart be able to endure the separation from my grandchildren. I feel like I am going to die from heartbreak. How can I endure this? Am I doing the right thing? I can't be around them without being used by them and I feel they just all stomp on me & take me for granted. This is very painful for me but how else will they learn to stand on their own & show respect to others if they can't even learn to respect their own grandmother? I daydream about running far, far away just to find a little peace. I'm accused of not loving my grandkids but they all just act awful. What can I do? Any help is appreciated.
God Bless