Don't understand...don't know what to do

I just don't understand and I just don't know what to do. I have tried so much for so long and prayed so hard for so long and yet absolutely nothing ever works out for me. It is completely crazy how that happens or doesn't happen I should say. I'm so sick of it and I just don't know what to do. I have prayed and prayed and prayed for so long for the Lord to help me to be the way that is right and pleasing to Him and to do what He wants me to do. Yet I still have issues (like bad habits of easily angered, etc.) that I really want to get rid of but that just always seem to come back no matter how hard I try or how hard or how much I pray for help with not being that way anymore.
I've prayed and prayed about getting a job too and I've applied absolutely everywhere around my area (out of what I could qualify for) and have gotten nothing. I finally got hired on and one place, but that only lasted a short while before that ended due to high sales expectations and me not really even being a people person and so not good w/ sales. Now this leaves me back at nothing working out. I have gone to college many times, yet every single time something happened that enabled me to not succeed (car breaking down so no transportation, friend taking me then ending up in hosp. so again no transportation, me being sick, etc.). Finally leaving me w/ a grant repayment & unable to return till I get it payed off, which I can't due to not being able to get a job.
I just don't understand any of this. I always thought that we weren't supposed to just be doing nothing. That we were supposed to work and be the way that's right according to the Word and God. So, I just don't understand why I pray, asking for His help w/ changing so I can be right according to God and His Word and to be able to work, yet that still doesn't happen. I just don't understand it at all. I thought that if we asked for His help, especially when we're asking Him to help us to be right & pleasing to Him and asking His help in getting rid of stuff like bad attitudes, easily angered, etc. that we would be helped. I also thought that if we asked for help in being able to work that we would be helped in that as well when we're doing all that we can ourselves too. I just don't understand any of this. I don't know what to do now. I feel like this guy right now:

Read Lamentations. Or Job. Or Daniel.
Preachers are teaching that God brings Cadillacs, but the history of Man shows that God works miracles while we are in the valleys. That means we get into the valleys sometimes.

Look around at the numbers of other people who are unemployed. One out of every eleven capable adults.

Then again, it does take faith to lean on God. He can come up with solutions, but the employers are not always your source. You might need to take up dogwalking, or something completely outside your field, look into grants, get an overseas job, create something that doesn't exist.

Make sure God is your source. You have reached the end of where your brain is taking you, but sometimes it only takes a little different input to shift your thinking. Go to some workshops, meet new people, watch different shows, and fight for your income.

Life is not easy. Be a fighter and a scrapper.

Some of our bad orientations or inclinations are built-in and have to be managed rather than removed completely. Anger may be a challenge for the rest of your life, but if we stay close to God's word, most of our darker sides can be improved by a change of perspective. But reading and understanding the Bible is key. I'm sorry to hear about your job troubles. More and more people are facing the same thing these days. Have you thought about working a retail job or something that isn't as high-pressure as sales?

Peripatetic said:

Some of our bad orientations or inclinations are built-in and have to be managed rather than removed completely. Anger may be a challenge for the rest of your life, but if we stay close to God's word, most of our darker sides can be improved by a change of perspective. But reading and understanding the Bible is key. I'm sorry to hear about your job troubles. More and more people are facing the same thing these days. Have you thought about working a retail job or something that isn't as high-pressure as sales?

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I tried to get retail jobs, restaurant jobs, etc. and was not able to even get those no matter how many times I went back in, called, or applied. So, like I said, I just don't get it. I know it is hard anymore, but really something should come up eventually and not just something I'm not even completely capable of doing therefore not able to keep, which is not happening at all. It's like I just keep trying and trying and praying and praying and still nothing works out at all. It's like no matter how hard I try or no matter what I do or no matter how much or how hard I pray it almost seems like it's just not enough and doesn't work out.

Seek first His kingdom,ª and these things shall be addedª to you.

Have you tried looking into your local unemployment office in your area to see if they have counseling for helping to get a job. Some times they will have classes on how to write a proper resume or how to behave during an interview. You should call and see what resources they have available.

As for your anger that could be from unresolved issues. You might consider counseling to see if you can find out what is tiggering it.

Sometimes it just takes a long time to get to where you want to be. It is all in Gods' time and not ours. I know it is very frustrating for you. Praying for you!

Suggest searching your heart for any thing you haven't been able to forgive. And if there's something there...focus on seeing how we need to forgive for our own relationship's sake with The Lord. Realizing also that our forgiving another does not equal them "getting away with anything", but it does entail that we leave it in God's hands, and let go off any feelings of ill will, or thoughts of retaliation/retribution.

If this isn't a factor...suggest prayer and fasting, if not familiar with this discipline study the subject first. Here's a link to the fasting forum here at CF - Fasting - Christian Forums

Additionally, if not well studied in Scripture yet, forsaking some other preoccupations for doing so on a daily basis ought to help lots...only study to let The Word speak directly unto you praying for the Holy Spirit to be present as your Teacher, rather than looking to man for the answers...yet once one believes The Lord has spoken to them it's good to compare with what others believe The Lord has spoken to them...but largely skip over the second and third hand parroted rhetoric for that greatly lacks God's Personal Touch, which is where the real Power & Grace of The Gospel is found.

When Jesus came into the coasts of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, saying, Whom do men say that I the Son of man am?
And they said, Some say that thou art John the Baptist: some, Elias; and others, Jeremias, or one of the prophets.
He saith unto them, But whom say ye that I am?
And Simon Peter answered and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God.
And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.
And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. <-----> Matthew 16:13-18

Also be diligent to look up definitions of key words for the sake of verification.

Here's a link to very good free downloadable Bible study software. e-Sword - the Sword of the LORD with an electronic edge

Additionally, finding some humble/discreet way of being compassionate/charitable towards others who've got it worse then we do, is key.

And May The Lord Be Pleased to Bless !

wm

I guess I'm one to not know the bible so well but just try to pray. I feel your pain and frustration. Like no matter how hard you try, pray, go to church, etc nothing is working and nothing is changing.
I feel as though you have to go further than asking God and take charge yourself. I'm an anti-social that can't stand working with random people. But I realized it's all out of fear, fear of disappointment, fear of failing once again and again. Talking to people, friends, even a psychologists, helped break little by little out of the social anxiety.

This is only temporary for you. God does have a plan. I've seen people at the bottom of the pit get there miracles. You are one of them too. Don't give up because the storm is still overhead. Don't give up because you still have anger problems. It's a lifetime progress. God Bless

In a fallen world things don't always work out well, even for a Christian. That's a hard reality and is often overlooked.

John
NZ

dancingforJesus said:

I just don't understand and I just don't know what to do. I have tried so much for so long and prayed so hard for so long and yet absolutely nothing ever works out for me. It is completely crazy how that happens or doesn't happen I should say. I'm so sick of it and I just don't know what to do. I have prayed and prayed and prayed for so long for the Lord to help me to be the way that is right and pleasing to Him and to do what He wants me to do. Yet I still have issues (like bad habits of easily angered, etc.) that I really want to get rid of but that just always seem to come back no matter how hard I try or how hard or how much I pray for help with not being that way anymore.

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Let us know, but my wild guess is that in your life you have your "prayer time", then you have the rest of the time for everything else, so that you mostly "pray in advance" to be a better person but then it doesn't work.

Try a little trick: set yourself a rule that every time you get angry, you must immediately recite a specific prayer (pick one and stick with it). Sneak to the toilet or another quite place to do that, or recite the prayer mentally when you cannot sneak away. When I say immediately, I mean immediately (as soon as it comes to your mind at least), which incidentally requires you to stop shouting or arguing.

If it doesn't work because you can't manage to stop being angry it and pray immediately, set a second rule that you can do it afterwards but then you have to recite the same prayer multiple times (the longer the delay, the more times).

dancingforJesus said:

I've prayed and prayed about getting a job too and I've applied absolutely everywhere around my area (out of what I could qualify for) and have gotten nothing. I finally got hired on and one place, but that only lasted a short while before that ended due to high sales expectations and me not really even being a people person and so not good w/ sales. Now this leaves me back at nothing working out. I have gone to college many times, yet every single time something happened that enabled me to not succeed (car breaking down so no transportation, friend taking me then ending up in hosp. so again no transportation, me being sick, etc.). Finally leaving me w/ a grant repayment & unable to return till I get it payed off, which I can't due to not being able to get a job.
I just don't understand any of this. I always thought that we weren't supposed to just be doing nothing. That we were supposed to work and be the way that's right according to the Word and God. So, I just don't understand why I pray, asking for His help w/ changing so I can be right according to God and His Word and to be able to work, yet that still doesn't happen. I just don't understand it at all. I thought that if we asked for His help, especially when we're asking Him to help us to be right & pleasing to Him and asking His help in getting rid of stuff like bad attitudes, easily angered, etc. that we would be helped. I also thought that if we asked for help in being able to work that we would be helped in that as well when we're doing all that we can ourselves too. I just don't understand any of this.

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Let's be honest here: prayers will not get you a job.

If you tried hard already, then there has to be a reason why you can't get a job. Maybe you are not good at writing a CV, or at doing job interviews, or at identifying the right jobs to apply for. A lot of people underestimate the importance of these skills! You need to investigate all these either by talking to friends who have changed jobs easily, or by reading a book on the topic (check the public library), or by searching dedicated websites on the net.

I am sorry things are so hard for you. I know how you feel. There are times in my life when I feel like I just have one bad thing after another happen to me. To be honest, a lot of people experience that. So you are not alone. I wonder what your specific living situation is and how you are paying the bills. If someone is supporting you financially then the next question might be 'what do you want to do with your life'. Have you ever taken a spiritual gifts assessment? As far as transportation goes, you can go to school online. Try going to degreeinfo.com and you will find a lot of people who can help you find an online college in the degree field you are interested in. Once you are back in college, your loans will be put on hold. They are only coming due b/c you are not attending anymore. If you get back in school full time then those loans will be back on hold. Try to seek out a degree plan that will lead to a job. Another option might be going to a bible college. I know that Joyce Meyer has a school where you take classes and serve in ministry as well. There are options for you out there

If you feel like you struggle with anger as well as some of the other issues as well, you might seek out a counselor/doctor who could also possibly explore possibilities to help you.