Hello,
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we are leaning very close to marriage except for one huge issue. She had to take on a significant amount of debt to cover her sisters necessary medical expenses. That was about 6 years ago and she has paid off about 10% of it since then.
I on the other hand have the same amount of money in savings that she has in debt. I live way below my means and have saved up that money while working during college. She also makes 20% more than me.
We also have two different views on money. She, while in debt, gives freely. I give conservatively. I also personally believe that all types of giving fall under the 10% but 10% is just the starting point.
So she gave this gift to her sister which at the pace she is going will put her in debt for the next 25 years at 6% interest. I personally feel this gift falls under giving so she should put everything she has into paying off this debt, in contrast, she believes she should continue giving to the church and to everyone else.
Everything I have found on this subject refers to people who were very financially irresponsible, spending money on everything, or people with student loans. I don't understand how God could want her to continue to struggle like this when her struggles come from a gift. I calculated that if she lives below her means like me and puts all of her money into her debt, she can pay it off in 1 year and 6 months.
We are now taking a three week break, our first break in our relationship to clear our heads and think through this situation.
While typing this I want my views to be wrong but I am also so against debt. Can someone please show me a new way to view this?
Thanks.
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we are leaning very close to marriage except for one huge issue. She had to take on a significant amount of debt to cover her sisters necessary medical expenses. That was about 6 years ago and she has paid off about 10% of it since then.
I on the other hand have the same amount of money in savings that she has in debt. I live way below my means and have saved up that money while working during college. She also makes 20% more than me.
We also have two different views on money. She, while in debt, gives freely. I give conservatively. I also personally believe that all types of giving fall under the 10% but 10% is just the starting point.
So she gave this gift to her sister which at the pace she is going will put her in debt for the next 25 years at 6% interest. I personally feel this gift falls under giving so she should put everything she has into paying off this debt, in contrast, she believes she should continue giving to the church and to everyone else.
Everything I have found on this subject refers to people who were very financially irresponsible, spending money on everything, or people with student loans. I don't understand how God could want her to continue to struggle like this when her struggles come from a gift. I calculated that if she lives below her means like me and puts all of her money into her debt, she can pay it off in 1 year and 6 months.
We are now taking a three week break, our first break in our relationship to clear our heads and think through this situation.
While typing this I want my views to be wrong but I am also so against debt. Can someone please show me a new way to view this?
Thanks.