I went to see a friend yesterday & I feel she was quite pushy with her beliefs & interfering in my relationship. She asked me if I was putting my boyfriend before God & telling me that if I was shutting down on church etc it's because I know God would 'challenge' me on premarital sex. She was also disapproving towards me when I told her I wanted to settle down soon ("What happened to missionary work in Africa"?) She also told me that I have to make a choice whether to live for God or not. I left with a bad taste in my mouth & seriously considering whether I should just stop going to Church! I don't appreciate people telling me how to live my life & shoving their views down my throat. How do I politely tell her to mind her own business?
Faith isn't about church. It is about day to day living. If this church is causing problems with God, leave the church, go somewhere else.
We aren't in a religion of condemnation and Law. We are in a religion of tolerance, of grace and truth.
It is better for someone to sit back and get rest and repentance, to not judge and condemn people in their hearts... then to be crying, 'do this' and 'do that' and boasting about how they are so approved by God.
I, personally, don't believe because of some church or because of "friends"... but because of what Jesus teaches. It is the right way to live life. God is everywhere.
I think charity work and missionary work can be great... if done in humility. But, if you look at the history, missionaries have often come with bad messages hurting the cultures in these countries. This has caused strong resentment against Christianity in many of these countries and we have to try and work back from that.
Africa's definitely a great place to go, but what they need is guidance on infrastructure. Teaching people how to fish, rather then giving them fish.