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Alex is now 4.5 months old and she won't go to sleep by herself.
She sometimes would fall asleep on her own as a newborn but every night we would rock her to sleep in our arms and only when she's fully asleep we can put her down, if she's not fully asleep and we put her down she'll wake up crying.
I never thought of co-sleeping but as a newborn she had a hard time being on her own in her bassinet so I started co-sleeping with her and nursing her to sleep.
I know that she's still very little and needs me but my DH and I have started to realize she will cry for attention.
Just for the record she gets alot of attention, she has her morning routine where I walk her around the house and show her things, laugh, smile and play...
When I put her down in her bouncy I'll never know if she'll start crying or play by herself for 20 minutes.
I really don't like the term letting them cry it out but I decided to try it...I'm thinking she might be too little cause she wouldn't calm down, if anything she just got more upset...today I gave it another try for her first nap time, I nursed her and she fell asleep but this time I didn't rock her to sleep and she woke up very soon crying so I let her cry it out for an hour.
Don't get me wrong, she wasn't crying for a whole hour, I timed it and went into the room every 2-5 minutes to check on her, pick her up for a minute to calm her down, give her a paci, her toy bunny. sometimes I didn't have to do that, I could just stand there and talk to her and she would calm down and smile but if even for a moment I just bent down to pick some thing up she was crying.
Before I put her down to sleep, I made sure she ate, changed her diaper, made sure she's not in any pain.
Am I wrong for letting her cry? is she too little to be put down without being rocked to sleep? If not, how to I help her fall asleep on her own?
Please be gentle with me this is my first child (and probably only ) and I'm just trying to figure out what's best for her.
She sometimes would fall asleep on her own as a newborn but every night we would rock her to sleep in our arms and only when she's fully asleep we can put her down, if she's not fully asleep and we put her down she'll wake up crying.
I never thought of co-sleeping but as a newborn she had a hard time being on her own in her bassinet so I started co-sleeping with her and nursing her to sleep.
I know that she's still very little and needs me but my DH and I have started to realize she will cry for attention.
Just for the record she gets alot of attention, she has her morning routine where I walk her around the house and show her things, laugh, smile and play...
When I put her down in her bouncy I'll never know if she'll start crying or play by herself for 20 minutes.
I really don't like the term letting them cry it out but I decided to try it...I'm thinking she might be too little cause she wouldn't calm down, if anything she just got more upset...today I gave it another try for her first nap time, I nursed her and she fell asleep but this time I didn't rock her to sleep and she woke up very soon crying so I let her cry it out for an hour.
Don't get me wrong, she wasn't crying for a whole hour, I timed it and went into the room every 2-5 minutes to check on her, pick her up for a minute to calm her down, give her a paci, her toy bunny. sometimes I didn't have to do that, I could just stand there and talk to her and she would calm down and smile but if even for a moment I just bent down to pick some thing up she was crying.
Before I put her down to sleep, I made sure she ate, changed her diaper, made sure she's not in any pain.
Am I wrong for letting her cry? is she too little to be put down without being rocked to sleep? If not, how to I help her fall asleep on her own?
Please be gentle with me this is my first child (and probably only ) and I'm just trying to figure out what's best for her.