I lost my dad.

I haven't dealt with the loss of my dad yet, but of an uncle. I know you must be going through a great deal of pain right now. I don't think anyone can be ready to lose a parent. But God has a plan, He always does. And though the pain is there, your dad will always be with you in your heart.

Your life will never be the same. But remember that God always has a plan for your life. Look forward to when you will see your father again in Heaven.


I'll be praying.

God Bless.

Stanfi said:

My dad passed away last Wensday, Oct 24th. His funeral was on Oct 28th.

A couple of months ago, they found a tumor in his lung, but the doctors said they could do surgery. My dad decided to have the surgery. He made it through the surgery ok, but then his kidneys failed. He only had one with about 40% function, and he had ciruculation problems. He just wasn't able to recover, and he died. He was 69.

I feel like someone has cut a big hole right in my heart. It really hurts. I miss my dad so much, I really was not prepared to lose him now in my life. I lost my paternal grandparents a few years ago, but this has been so much harder. I just don't know how I can make it without my dad. I depended on him for advice and just general help so much.

It just hurts really bad. I am sure many here know how I feel.

We had so many people praying that God would bring him through, and then he didn't make it. Jesus never turned anyone away for healing in the bible, why didn't he touch my dad? The last few weeks have just felt like a bad dream, that I am hoping I will wake up from.

I know God is in control, and he knows what is best, but it's just really hard right now.

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I know how you feel. I lost my dad in 2003 and I miss him more than anything. What gets me through is knowing dad isn't suffering anymore. It sounds like you lost your dad pretty quickly and I know that is hard. My dad was sick for many years and I had to watch him helplessly die a little everyday. That was very hard and one goes through years of grieving when it is a slow passing. I know there is probably things you wanted to say to your dad before he passed but you could never of told him nothing he didn't already know. I am sure he knew you loved him.

to answer your question as to why God didn't heal your dad. It sounds like your dad gave up the will to live. When our loved ones give up the will to live God takes them home and ends their suffering. When wills our involved it takes control out of God's hands in a way. God gave us all wills and with wills comes a certain amount of control. We can choose to do certain things or not do certain things. I don't know if I am sense or not, or if I am getting my point across. We don't for sure why some things happen the way they do. But that is the conclusion I came to. And the reason I came to that conclusion is because years ago I lost an aunt to cancer. Everyone was praying for her to be healed but nothing ever happened. When I prayed for her to be healed I heard that small still voice tell me to go back and pray again. When I did, I prayed for her to be healed or for the Lord to take her. But to end her suffering however He (God) saw fit. 2 minutes later she was gone. I truly believe the prayers to heal her hindered her from going home. Because she had gave up the will to live. When I prayed for God's will to be done, it was.

It will get easier in time but you will always miss your dad. And you will always have your good days and bad days, The important thing is the love and life you shared with him. Remember the things he taught you and once in awhile listen close and you can almost hear them giving advice when it is needed. My prayers are with you and may God be your comfort in this time of grief and mourning.

Stanfi,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My husband lost his dad not too long ago. It is very tough. My heart goes out to you.

I cannot say why God heals some people and not others. All I know is that He sees a bigger picture than we ever will and He must know something that we can't see yet. It sounds like you already know this (but sometimes, it just hurts all the same!) Regardless, God loves each of us to no end and always has our best in mind. (Sometimes what we think is best really isn't the best). He may have used your dad's illness in those last few moments to bring him to Jesus.

Please don't let this event shake your faith even a little. That's just the enemy trying to prey on you during this tough time.

I pray that your dad is with God today and is rejoicing in Heaven. I pray that when you're reunited, you'll have lots of great stories to tell about how he inspired you. Hang onto Hope, brother.

May God heal your heart quickly and replace the sadness with good memories and joy.

God bless you always,
E4

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