Is it a good idea to move in with my future in-laws?

ILiveInU · May 4, 2007

For some reason I am having trouble with the idea of staying with my b/f's parents. I am unsure if it is because they are his parents or because they are also my pastors.

I was excited at the thought at first :pray:

, but I just got a wierd feeling inside that I should ask for help and pray for it first.

You see, they are renting a room that is in thier basement and is like a small studio apartment. It is just up the road from my job and I have my own private entrance as well as the rent is very fair.

I am unsure though, I don't want to cross lines or boundries of any sort.

Anyone have any similar experiences or suggestions that can help me through a bit of the frustration and confusion I am just presently feeling

, please?

javaluver · May 4, 2007

I don't see a problem with it. Obviously you get along with them and it is technically a seperate dwelling if it has it's own entrance. Look at it this way, it might give you a sense of security and safety to know your landlords. Are you and your boyfriend really serious? Are you concerned that it will be awkward if things don't work out? If I were in your situation that might be the only red flag for me...

Mskedi · May 4, 2007

I would say that if you feel uncomfortable, it's worth thinking about and possibly passing up. I've lived places where I felt slightly awkward, and it's simply not worth it.

If your relationship with the family is strong, though, it could be a great arrangement.

Monaleezza · May 6, 2007

I guess it all depends on how they feel about you and how you feel about them.
But the arrangement sounds good and it doesn't seem as though you'll be in each other's space too much becase of the structure of the house.

Stolic · May 6, 2007

javaluver said:
I don't see a problem with it. Obviously you get along with them and it is technically a seperate dwelling if it has it's own entrance. Look at it this way, it might give you a sense of security and safety to know your landlords. Are you and your boyfriend really serious? Are you concerned that it will be awkward if things don't work out? If I were in your situation that might be the only red flag for me...

I agree with javaluver - if you are feeling concerned about if things don't work out - take some time to pray and think on it. Hope you work it out

trichchic · May 6, 2007

yes,, pray and heed the Holy Spirit. If you don't have a good feeling about it it is probably God telling you "don't do it!"

TransformedByGrace · May 15, 2007

I would highly advise against it. This is coming from someone who did it twice.

Tuffguy · May 16, 2007

No way. Eject. Too many complications.

Angeldove97 · May 16, 2007

It could be very difficult, but I could see myself (if I marry the guy I'm with now) moving in a for a short time (just a few months at most) with my husband's parents. And we might have to do that if we do move out to where he lives (MI and I'm in Jersey) in order to find a place and then get it all ready.

Just make sure you respect boundaries and help out in any way you can around the house and outside. That'll show you're grateful and responsible to have this opportunity to live with them.

Also, it would depend on your relationship with them. If you all are close, it should be fine, if not watch out!

trichchic · May 21, 2007

Even if it is fine, that can change when it is up close and personal. It really should be used as a last resort emergency situation only. If it works out then that is a miracle!

ILiveInU · May 25, 2007

I see... well it's still in debate and I will continue to pray on it. If not I know God will make a better way for me before too late.

Thank you all for such open and honest suggestions.

GOD BLESS & KEEP YOU ALL.

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