roamifuwant2 said:
Hello.
At the beginning of our marriage I felt that I stood up for myself and was confident and sure of myself. Years later, I don't feel like that anymore.
Bless your heart,,sad to say,,,most marriages dont last anymore.
And we are all changed by marriage.I dont know how,but after getting married,it changes you.
You become enlightened sorta,to the reality of living with someone,,and more often than not,it isnt what we are happy with,and it isnt what we expected.
Not only do you have your shortcomings to deal with,now you have your partners shortcomings affecting you too.I guess love can be a beautifull thing,when God is in it,,but it takes two,,and sometimes one person is more closer to God than the other.Your partner can suck the life and motivation out of you,and can become like so many have become,where they loath the site of their partner.
Well,I know nothing about you,but christians have a higher divorce rate than the world does,in our country,so says Doc James Dobson once on one of his programs.An unhappy marriage can drain you of your will to even wake up in the morning,and it can break the heart of the strongest man,and put a long term hurt,into the heart of a child,who see's all the trouble most of the time.
But I have seen some who really were in love,even in thier older years,,,they even looked like each other,,I guess they must have weathered the storms,and become truly one.
Love is always risky,and it takes an effort to love someone you live with everyday.
But Gods love is eternal,and the floods can not drown it,and the fire can not quench it,Gods unconditional love is forever.
I pray you and yours will fnd this love,that comes from the heart of God.Because God is love.
