Wow...that post was SOOO long ago. I've moved out and I've divorced, and the 2 youngest live with him. I would like to thank you both for your responses, and I look forward to anyone else's opinion.Autumnleaf said:
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ClaireZ
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Everybody needs to read the whole thread and get caught up!!
Hi Liselle.
What is done, is done. You are now divorced, and your ex has custody of your two youngest. The best thing you can do now is to plan as much time as you can with all 3 of your children together, so you can cement the fact that you are all still a family, and that you still love them.
As far as your ex's new girlfriend and her children. This really isn't your business now. Unless she harms your children, or favors her own over yours in such a way that it harms them, there is nothing you can do.
You are just going to have to continue to be the best mom you can be to all your children, and move on with your life, and let your ex, move on with his.
Hi Liselle.
What is done, is done. You are now divorced, and your ex has custody of your two youngest. The best thing you can do now is to plan as much time as you can with all 3 of your children together, so you can cement the fact that you are all still a family, and that you still love them.
As far as your ex's new girlfriend and her children. This really isn't your business now. Unless she harms your children, or favors her own over yours in such a way that it harms them, there is nothing you can do.
You are just going to have to continue to be the best mom you can be to all your children, and move on with your life, and let your ex, move on with his.
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Serving4Christ
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Liselle,
Remember awhile back in the posts when I said the anger would consume you...it's doing just that. Slowly but surely you are allowing Satan's greatest strength to consume you...bitterness, hatred, and jealousy.
Learn to forgive and see what your heart does! Learn to love and not be bitter. Train your heart to see good in a person and not bad.
I hope you decide to step out of the darkness before the darkness stills away your light. Your heart will feel so much better when you learn to forgive your husband. And when you learn to forgive, it'll be easier to forgive yourself for what you've done as well. This is where your feelings are coming from...deep inside, you know what you did was wrong...it's time to forgive others and yourself. Happiness comes from truth and there's truth in the saying, "The truth will set you free." Only then will you be able to move on as the mother your children need and want.
In love,
Remember awhile back in the posts when I said the anger would consume you...it's doing just that. Slowly but surely you are allowing Satan's greatest strength to consume you...bitterness, hatred, and jealousy.
Learn to forgive and see what your heart does! Learn to love and not be bitter. Train your heart to see good in a person and not bad.
I hope you decide to step out of the darkness before the darkness stills away your light. Your heart will feel so much better when you learn to forgive your husband. And when you learn to forgive, it'll be easier to forgive yourself for what you've done as well. This is where your feelings are coming from...deep inside, you know what you did was wrong...it's time to forgive others and yourself. Happiness comes from truth and there's truth in the saying, "The truth will set you free." Only then will you be able to move on as the mother your children need and want.
In love,
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An update...I still don't like my ex, but time truly does heal. Things are for the most part going much better between us. We don't fight nearly as much. He and his g/f semi broke up but are working on getting back. My kids like her, and he seems happy. Some days I'm still mad that he didnt act that way for me, but I can deal. I have someone that respects me and loves me for me. People change and we'll see what the future holds.
Maybe what we should tell people when we KNOW they're emotional is just to wait...things DO get better. It does take time.
Maybe what we should tell people when we KNOW they're emotional is just to wait...things DO get better. It does take time.
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