Recent content by snoochface

I also have a husband who doesn't listen/hear/retain information well. The only solution that works is for our division of labor to be me doing the things that matter enough for me to want them to be done a certain way, and for him to do the things that he is interested in doing, good at doing...

Definitely in words. I have entire dialogues in my head. I work out logic with mental words. If I can't get the words in my head first, they don't come out of my mouth right.

If you're not using birth control because you want to trust God and be obedient to him.... then if you have 3, 4, 5, 11 kids as a result, I guess you need to think of it as a result of trusting God and being obedient to him, and then trust him to help you take care of your passel of children...

I'm sorry he's taking that line. From things you've said in the past, I'm wondering if it's a combination of him not being comfortable with you having big emotions, and not wanting to deviate from the easiest course of action, which is inaction. He's got a good job, in his mind it's "Why take...

Start looking immediately. If they'll do it to one, they'll do it to all. Plus, it's just likely to be a sore spot between the spouses going forward, which isn't worth it when it's "just a job" to the one who still works there.

Why are you asking an internet forum? Ask the Holy Spirit and search scripture, and you'll get real answers without the inevitable salacious and argumentative discussions that will come from asking a diverse group of people their personal opinions. The only answer that matters in the end is...

I think you've broken the code. I'm impressed. I remember your previous posts and how the communication issues between you could cause conflict, and you've found the way to improve on that. I hope I'm not coming across as condescending when I say I'm impressed, because I am, because I'm still...

A neighbor who plays golf with my husband makes jokes like this, and I find it sickening - especially because he's a neighbor and we know his wife so it seems especially cruel. An example, he grew out a beard, and his wife hated it. He told my husband, "She won't kiss me until I shave my...

The "right" translation of the Bible is the one that is shown to you by the Holy Spirit as you read God's word, meditate on what you are reading, and pray for the Holy Spirit to give you understanding. Translations do not change the meaning of God's word.

You did nothing wrong. The only thing you might have done "wrong" is to ask someone else in a group setting to change their behavior - only because he can send videos if he wants, and if other people in the group chat aren't bothered by it then the onus is on you to do what you need to do for...

So, if you're not in favor of receiving flowers on a random day assigned by... someone... you're also not in favor of women's rights? That's a big stretch. I don't give flowers to my husband on International Random Day either. So I guess that makes us equals.

I don't find it to be one of my rights as a woman to receive flowers. But no, I didn't get flowers that day, however my husband gives them to me regularly, for no reason other than to bring me something beautiful, throughout the year.

Is March 8 a flower giving holiday of some kind that is escaping me?

Unless someone knows my husband personally to the point that they would know who he is when I say his name, I use "my husband" in casual conversation.

Leave and cleave. You haven't left your mother and you're not cleaving to your wife. Change churches. Don't tell your mother where you are going. Draw a boundary and stick to it. You are being disloyal to your wife by setting this up as if it were a choice between your wife or your mother. It's...