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Recent content by Realizer

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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    Thank you for the direction, I'll have to look into the workbook, I think an interactive self-help book will help me recover from a lot of things I've gone through.
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    I'm aware :) I've been diagnosed with depression so I know for a fact I have it. I also have anxiety and ADHD. I'm sorry you've been through so much. I'd like to go to a support group in a church but they're all closed around here. I'll have to look into some other type of free support group...
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    We've established anxiety, depression, ADHD and trichotillomania but not PTSD. If I DO have PTSD, it's a goal to treat it. I've done well with just about everything else, but these flashbacks, anxiety dreams about driving, random crying and sadness, lack of interest in things, just all feels...
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    I cry more often than I should
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    They only looked at the physical damage, I never got treatment or suggested treatment for mental trauma. I brought up the possible trauma to my therapist but I didn't have a lot of time so I couldn't dive into it. If I had more money to go work on it regularly I would.
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    It took my husband and I a little bit to establish the relationship, but once I told myself I've known him a long time and he's not once tried to hurt me and only wanted me to be happy, it made it easier to be open with him. Now I'm open with him about everything. I do need to work on exercise...
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    I think I need to clarify. I've known my husband since high school. We'd already had a built and established friendship where I talked to him about everything, even during the emotional abusive relationship I was in. He very well knows what I am going through and is supportive of my wanting to...
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    Trigger Warning A Lot of Trauma

    Two years ago a lot happened. My boyfriend at the time emotionally abused me and used me and most likely cheated on me (high suspicions, no physical proof). Same year, I was in a car accident, and almost watched my roommate’s dog die (she’s alive and well, which I’m so so so happy about). That...
  9. Realizer

    Separation of the Church from Government: Good or Bad?

    The biggest problem I have with Trump is that he wants America to be a CHRISTIAN country. I remember hearing him say this a couple years ago and it’s...bothered me since then. And people idolize him as a perfect Christian leader for this country, but I don’t agree if he’s being idolized, as we...
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    Separation of the Church from Government: Good or Bad?

    Maybe not necessarily an intention to debate but I like seeing what people think and maybe gain new perspectives. I personally feel like because we have such a diverse nation making the US strictly a Christian country would create more tension between people. We have denominations that can get...
  11. Realizer

    My Biggest Struggle

    This was the most helpful. Thank you. I'd like you to elaborate on that. Are you saying if I marry my black boyfriend it would be more difficult? How so? What I was getting at is if I read the Bible and need to go to someone for questions and what I'm seeing is people making things up to...
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    My Biggest Struggle

    I like that. Thank you <3
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    My Biggest Struggle

    This isn't about the church or people in it being perfect, but about teaching the Bible for what it is.
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    My Biggest Struggle

    Thank you <3 I know this is gonna be a long journey for me. I kinda meditate on what I need, does that count as silent prayer?
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    My Biggest Struggle

    Woah lol I'm not nervous because he'll run off, he's very much a Christian and I'm very glad for him but I'm nervous BECAUSE he's so deep in it, and I'm not. Like, I feel like I need to catch up in a sense? It's nothing to do with him not wanting to do it with me. I'm not looking for a lukewarm...