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Recent content by Observer

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    Can you please pray for my pet

    Some may disagree with praying for animals, but if you can, she is really sick. Shes very old. Shes struggling to walk and not currently eating. I bought a lot of medications for her but she wont eat to take them but they dont seem to help a lot. Im not sure if its pain or something else, or...
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    Struggling to function in my life

    Hi everyone, My basic history is: anxiety since I can remember, excessive bullying through school by kids + teacher, parents had no real relationship/abusive then my father left her for another woman and they divorced, I developed severe agoraphobia and panic disorder, left school and didn't...
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    Divorce and adultery

    Thank you. I committed adultery first as he resisted divorce and I started a new relationship with a man I'd known for years. Then my ex husband met a woman and got her pregnant after that, then he signed and sent me the paper months after kid was born.
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    Problems with my marriage (Adultry)

    I don't know how you even considered staying with him knowing he had unprotected sex with someone else behind your back. You're stronger than me. I could never respect the man again. A very tough situation to be in...
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    Have You Been Trained To Be A Housewife?

    I'm cohabiting, recently divorced. I lost ability to feel judged by it after everything I've been through... not saying it... uh... I just... nevermind, can't speak my thoughts on it here. Anyway... my mum taught me some little things but she didn't really push it. I just kind of passively...
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    What DID you think about turning 30?

    It made me feel pretty bad. I was going through a divorce, I had no time to "celebrate" it as I was in the middle of final exams. I haven't had kids, so as a woman, that made me feel pressured to be 30. But I don't feel I want them, but it stresses me anyway. My career never took off, wasted so...
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    Single at 32 and feeling dread

    Hi, I had severe anxiety/OCD/BDD/depression/agoraphobia where I didn't leave the house (not even to the driveway, I wouldn't even open curtains) from 12 to 16 and rarely left the house until 19. Now I have a degree and I work but I'll never be "normal". I am stunted. I went the opposite way...
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    30 and don't think I want kids (but feel bad about it)

    Hey thirty somethings, I'm a 30 year old... girl... no... "woman" who got divorced this year after an 8 year abusive marriage. I'm now in a serious relationship. So I've always been terrified of having kids and never felt that pull at all. My ex husband said he'd leave me if I got pregnant and...
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    marriage vs moving in

    Because you can get married and realise a couple of years down the track that your husband is abusive. You don't really know someone if you haven't lived with them. That is why I would never wait until marriage again, but Christianity certainly advises you to wait.
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    How do you know if someone is right for you?

    There's a 99% chance I'll have anxiety issues fir the rest if my life. I'll never magically morph into a perfect version of myself. I fell for a man who I felt was out of my league. Seemed more well adjusted than me, healthier, better looking, owns a house... and I was some divorcing anxious...
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    Engaged, Living Together, Feeling Convicted

    I don't believe marriage erases what anyone has done. I left my husband due to abuse and am in a serious relationship with another man. If we got legally married, it wouldn't erase that were already cohabiting and having sex. That's done. I deliberately had sex with him when I wasn't yet fully...
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    DIVORCE AND SEPARATION

    Being punched in the face by my ex husband was as bad, if not worse, than sexual infidelity. In my case, if we go by the bible and believe cheating is the only valid reason to divorce, I should still be with my ex husband. I would rather reject Christianity than still be there, to be blunt. I...
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    Money and Marriage

    I don't think it's necessary to have joint accounts and I think it's good for a man to have some of his own money to spend without giving answers for it, but that's good for a woman to have as well. It's when there is a YOU vs ME attitude, that makes you feel separated from each other. That...
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    What birth control do you use?

    Avoid any IUDs. Copper ones can cause copper toxicity and any of them can damage cervix. They are often not recommended for women who still want to have children. Don't do natural planning or billings method or anything like that if you seriously do not want to get pregnant. It is too risky...
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    Strange cause for arousal?

    In my experience... this is more likely to happen with men who are sexually inexperienced or who have not had sex in a very long time or who don't touch. Men who have regular sex are not so highly reactive like that. No one really knows what their libido will be like in a marriage. You...