Recent content by Menageriemama

He claims my "disconnect" is punishment but it is a natural consequence. How is it possible for a grown man, who is successful in business, to not understand the difference between a natural consequence and a punishment? When you talk/act mean, people pull away. My own children understand that...

Yes, the verbal attacks do hurt the most. The source of the attacks hurts the most, Him. He seems to catch me off guard each time. Then when I detach like has been recommended by counselors, he complains I'm "disconnected ". It's the hurt that adds up over the years. The mind games get old. No...

First off, I just want to Thank each one of y'all for your responses. I really appreciate each one of them! I think getting opinions from multiple sources really helps me to improve ME, which is all I can do. I think "abuse" is a word that scares people all too often. It really boils down to a...

Oh yes, I have had this EXACT thing happen in several counseling sessions! I didn't know this book existed. Thank you!

In fact, he's not usually selfish sexually. He seems willing to do anything I'd be ok with. It's almost as if he thinks that's all he's got to give. But that's not really what I'm after. My husband knows he's got a side of himself that's very hard to live with (I can only compare it to a...

Sorry my reply took so long. I wrote something then it disappeared . Couples counseling goes ok- when he actually goes to it. If a pattern of behavior is pointed out, he usually goes on the defensive and says "well I'm better than I used to be" or "well I guess I'm not as perfect as you". It's...

I apologize if this is long but I want to accurately (as much as any one side in a marriage can!) describe my situation. My husband and I have been married 7 years and have 2 kids together. I have 2 children from a previous marriage (my husband has pretty much raised them as my older...