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Recent content by DrJay

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    verbal abuse

    Leanna I am sorry if you had to go through physical abuse. I am not trying to minimize the bad experienced by those who have been physical abused. We must remember that the starting point with physical battering almost always begins with verbal abuse. There is a established pattern the batterer...
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    Does Submit = Obey?

    Not quoting the entire scripture is why we something have problems.
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    verbal abuse

    Wounds do heal but for millions of victims of verbal abuse the pain and memories are still there.
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    verbal abuse

    Pegatha You are correct in your answer. It is the motive behind the abuse. Remember, verbal abuse is about "POWER and CONTROL". One person having power and control over another. If the abuser doesn't have it than they feel useless. In almost every case the "abuser" was a "victim" and was never...
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    verbal abuse

    There is a "BIG" difference between corrective criticism and verbal abuse. Read the definition again. Dr. Jay
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    verbal abuse

    Nan60 Here is one of the best definitions of verbal abuse: If you have ever heard something said to you or about you that, if believed, would lead you to assume that you are less than you are, different from whom you know yourself to be, or even not who you are, you have heard verbal abuse...
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    Another Christian with a marriage in trouble - also seeking any Pastor's advise

    Obe1 Think out what you have been saying. You may be answering your own question. Move slow and think it out. If someone does'nt want to be married than you know the answer. Dr. Jay
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    verbal abuse

    Johnfiredup Thanks for your reply. It is amassing that there are so many men who have been victims of verbal abuse. We usually think that it is a issue that affects mostly women. Not true. Thanks for the boldness to speak out...
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    verbal abuse

    Mayzoo and Whitestone Thanks for your replies. You are on the right track with your answers to the question I posed about verbal abuse. I am not trying to use anyone as a guniea pig all I am tying to do is bring an awareness about the problem of verbal abuse and hopefully open up a forum that...
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    verbal abuse

    Before someone asks. I have a Ph.D. in counseling and specialize in verbally abusive relationships. I also have written a book for christians who are victims of verbal abuse and verbally abusive relationships. Thought I might clear the air. I really want to hear the views of the people who look...
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    verbal abuse

    Good reply, Dr. Jay
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    verbal abuse

    Lori Suggest you read the book of James, chapter 3. This might help understand. Also entire book of Proverbs and pay close attention to what its says about our conversation with each other. Dr. Jay
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    verbal abuse

    DESI Sorry, but its all through your Bible.
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    verbal abuse

    Sorry, but I don't think anyone so far really has a clear understanding of the seriousness of verbal abuse. Dr. Jay
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    no relationship with husband

    Sounds like there is a communication problem thats been around a long time. How about verbal abuse? Has any of this been going on? Dr. Jay