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    Why is most of these posts by women??

    hidesertrat, I have read your posts and really empathize. Your wife's family history really struck a nerve (much like my wife's, we have been married 30+ years) These books really opened my eyes to how my wife sees the world. READ THEM. Your wife's reactions to you and others will be so much...
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    Why isn't it enough???

    Your spiritual relationship with God is between you and your God. If your wife has trouble with that, that is her problem. You are not responsible for her feelings. She sounds codependent, maybe an adult child of an alcoholic? JMHO... Research characteristics of Codependents and read up on...
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    porterross, If I gave her a passage of scripture to reflect on, that would really tick her off.....as it has in the past. In effect, she feels that a "heathen" has no right to point out scripture to a saved one......end of discussion. But thanks for the suggestion...
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    urgent request for prayer

    my thoughts and prayers are with you.......
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    Thanks for the kind words. This shrink is booked a few weeks in advance, so it will be awhile unfortunately. I will endure the cold shoulder till then, and that always amazed me. The times we saw the christian shrink, he showed her that we did basically agree on the majority of moral issues...
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    Of course, I would do a seperation first. If for nothing else, show her that this is serious and I am serious about how the marriage is going. We had another "discussion" last night and I refused to get into it again. The good news is she agreed to see the christian counselor with me again. I...
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    I did single counseling for 6 years and it helped. It helped me understand that this is an emotional/self esteem issue. Had my last session last year. I decided I was just going to live my life and let the chips fall where they may. Even though I can determine the reason for behavior, it...
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    We did go to a Christian counselor of her choice. She didn't like many of the things she heard from him, and he has a impeccable reputation in the Christian community and shrink community. She was not enthusiastic about going back after he told her to tone things down and have mutual respect...
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    Non denominational fundamentalist bible church. The pastor hesitated when I presented the question to him, but in the end he said "all that do not come to Christ are damned to hell, no matter what the circumstance", myself included if I did not declare myself born again. I was raised very...
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    I have talked to her pastor one on one on a couple occasions. He is in agreement with my wife on who is damned and who isn't. In the past when discussing this with my wife, I could never get a definite answer regarding other non fundamentalists, besides myself. She was sure I was damned, but...
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    Thanks dandymandy and havana16, I will certainly keep that reference in mind. But I have used scripture in the past to make some points on issues of disagreement. I was told "I was not in the Word" and didn't understand the bible. She was actually irate that I, as an unsaved person, was using...
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    It has been a while, but the same theme came up again. I am a heathen, the enemy. Everybody who is not a fundamentalist, born again Christian will burn it hell for eternity...."It is not my standard, but God's written standard, here in the Bible," she said as she lifts her bible to show me. I...
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    Thanks for the blessing....tonight I needed it. Ironically, spouse and I got into biblical discussion tonight...didn't go well. I am tired and going to bed...this stuff just wears me out.. Deep6
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    Are you guys really happy

    dandymandy, I don't want to hijack this thread and make this a pity party for myself so I will just clarify some things in response to your comments. (BTW thanks for the kind words) You are right, being fanatical about a cause can certainly destroy a marriage. The difference is her cause has...
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    Are you guys really happy

    I am somewhat happy in our marriage, but it has been a struggle. When we married, my wife was a lukewarm christian, I was an admitted deist. We knew each other, and dated for a few years and had a year engagement. My beliefs were not an issue when we decided to get married. 18 years ago, she...
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