Do other Christians have trouble making friends?

[peaceful-forest]

I was wondering if any other Christians are having trouble with making friends. Friendships you're actually happy with and are good for you. It can be with other Christians or non-believers.

I feel like I have trouble. I don't really know where to find other Christians that are like me.

At work I'm around people I do not trust. They lie, they gossip, they're out to get others, etc. So I have to watch what I say and do, and protect myself.

I also haven't been to church in 6 years. I know that's bad. But I'm not impressed with the churches in my area.

 

[Unqualified]

it helps for me to go to church. I may not be friends with a lot of them but I am cordial with a lot. Church people treat me decently. But friends are more rare.

 

[jacks]

It takes effort to make and keep friends. Be nice, don't be judgmental and reach out to others. I find it helpful to get involved in activities that involve people. Church, sports, clubs, groups, hobbies, etc. Put in more effort to the friendship than it feels like you're getting. Being overly pushy is not as big a problem for most people, as not being pushy enough. I just moved to a new area and had to kind of force myself on people at first, after awhile a few end up being friends. It can be hard at times.

 

[jonojim1337]

Zap!

 

[lismore]

I was wondering if any other Christians are having trouble with making friends. Friendships you're actually happy with and are good for you. It can be with other Christians or non-believers.

I feel like I have trouble. I don't really know where to find other Christians that are like me.

At work I'm around people I do not trust. They lie, they gossip, they're out to get others, etc. So I have to watch what I say and do, and protect myself.

I also haven't been to church in 6 years. I know that's bad. But I'm not impressed with the churches in my area.

Hello. I know what you mean. But a church or a fellowship can be a good place to start, at least you have something in common right away with the folks there. Finding a good church can be hard, but worth it if you can find a functioning church. Sometimes there might be an activity or ministry you could join, even if the service itself gives you challenges. God Bless, take care

 

[Michie]

I was wondering if any other Christians are having trouble with making friends. Friendships you're actually happy with and are good for you. It can be with other Christians or non-believers.

I feel like I have trouble. I don't really know where to find other Christians that are like me.

At work I'm around people I do not trust. They lie, they gossip, they're out to get others, etc. So I have to watch what I say and do, and protect myself.

I also haven't been to church in 6 years. I know that's bad. But I'm not impressed with the churches in my area.

Nobody is perfect and neither are you. The Church is full of sinners. Everyone has their crosses to bear. Going to Church is not going to hurt you. It can only help. Set your boundaries if you feel someone is not your cup of tea. Concentrate on the Lord and your devotion to Him. Not others.

 

[Michie]

Stewardship Prayer

Dear Heavenly Father,
My Church is composed of people like me;
I help make it what it is.

It will be friendly, if I am.
Its pews will be filled, if I help fill them.
It will do great work, if I work.
It will make generous gifts to many causes,
if I am a generous giver.
It will bring other people into its worship and fellowship,
if I invite and bring them.
It will be a Church of loyalty and love,
of fearlessness and faith,
and a Church with a noble spirit,
if I, who make it what it is, am filled with these same things.

Therefore, with Your help, O God,
I shall dedicate myself to the task of being all things
that I want my Church to be.

Amen.

 

[Bob Crowley]

The first step is to get back to church. You may not be impressed with the local churches but you have to make a start somewhere.

The next step is to get involved in a church activity of some sort. That way you'll have a common interest with at least some of the congregation and as you work with them, you'll get to know them and they will get to know you.

But if you don't even darken a church door, there's no way you're going to meet other Christians.

 

[timf]

A relative born in 1918 once derided the previous generation saying that their best friends were their siblings and cousins. He had been to college in the late 30s and thought he was a sort of "citizen of the world". He traveled in financial circles and did not understand that his "friendship" was sought for financial advantage.

We now live at a time when families have been decimated and "society" is the stream in which we swim. This in itself is not very conducive to real friendships. With shrunken families, geographical distances, and limited free time one would have difficulty making friends even without a general repudiation of Christianity not to mention a disinclination of delving deeper into doctrine.

 

[jonojim1337]

A relative born in 1918 once derided the previous generation saying that their best friends were their siblings and cousins. He had been to college in the late 30s and thought he was a sort of "citizen of the world". He traveled in financial circles and did not understand that his "friendship" was sought for financial advantage.

We now live at a time when families have been decimated and "society" is the stream in which we swim. This in itself is not very conducive to real friendships. With shrunken families, geographical distances, and limited free time one would have difficulty making friends even without a general repudiation of Christianity not to mention a disinclination of delving deeper into doctrine.

We can be thankful to God in all times.

 

[lismore]

We can be thankful to God in all times.

Yes, for such a time as this we have been deployed by the Lord for his plans. All we can do is stay faithful. God bless you

 

[Delvianna]

I was wondering if any other Christians are having trouble with making friends. Friendships you're actually happy with and are good for you. It can be with other Christians or non-believers.

I feel like I have trouble. I don't really know where to find other Christians that are like me.

At work I'm around people I do not trust. They lie, they gossip, they're out to get others, etc. So I have to watch what I say and do, and protect myself.

I also haven't been to church in 6 years. I know that's bad. But I'm not impressed with the churches in my area.

I get it... I've had seriously bad experiences with church and the people in them. What I decided on, is to count my blessings where they are. I may not have "friends" but I do have people that I can fellowship with. I have a high standard for friendship, so I can help others, be there for others, for the acquaintances that I do have while I pray and ask God to bring a friend into my life that he knows is good for me.

Ask God to lead and direct you to where you need to be that is fruitful to both your spiritual walk with him, and the people that he can surround you with. I think it helps that if you stop trying to figure it out and let God do all the heavy lifting by intersecting your path with someone that could be a friend, you can learn to appreciate the people in your life that you have now and it makes that journey a bit more peaceful. Just let God direct you.

 

[jonojim1337]

I get it... I've had seriously bad experiences with church and the people in them. What I decided on, is to count my blessings where they are. I may not have "friends" but I do have people that I can fellowship with. I have a high standard for friendship, so I can help others, be there for others, for the acquaintances that I do have while I pray and ask God to bring a friend into my life that he knows is good for me.

Ask God to lead and direct you to where you need to be that is fruitful to both your spiritual walk with him, and the people that he can surround you with. I think it helps that if you stop trying to figure it out and let God do all the heavy lifting by intersecting your path with someone that could be a friend, you can learn to appreciate the people in your life that you have now and it makes that journey a bit more peaceful. Just let God direct you.

Christ did not come for the righteous, but to call sinners to repentance. I think the desire for friendship is a good one.