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This is a follow up to my post a week or two ago about my stepson. For the TL;DR recap, he got caught smoking pot in our garage, and admitted then that it was the second time doing it since he's moved in with us. The whole reason he moved in with us is because he had a drug fueled breakdown when he tried to live with his dad briefly at the beginning of the summer. He ended up in the hospital, so after he got out we thought it'd be best for him to move in with us here. But as it turns out, he's not very bright and he's just doing the same stuff. We gave him two strikes for this and apparently the other time he smoked here since he moved
My wife's been upset about it because it's ended up revealing some things I already knew about her son. Anyway, she's wanted me to do something as step dad but honestly I've been so angry at him I've just wanted him out of my sight. I haven't even been able to look at him cause I can't stand him anymore.
However, I told my wife the three of us would have a sit-down this week, where I plan to give him fair warning that if he screws up by any measure again, then he's gone. He's gonna have to move out, and where he goes is his problem, not mine. My obligation is to the health and safety of our little boys, both under three. My wife didn't think it was too harsh. So continuing with that I'd also ask him what his five year plan is, to which I fully expect him to play dumb and say he doesn't know and doesn't know what it is. Either way I'm gonna have to tell him to come back in a week and tell us what he's figured out because even if he quits drugs, he's an adult man and shouldn't be living with parents. His mom and I agree that joining the military, like the Air Force or maybe the Coast Guard would be ideal cause it would remedy his bone idleness. If he doesn't do that though we want him to pick some kind of technical training that he can pursue even if he thinks he doesn't or won't like it.
My question is, is kicking out an adult kid like this, one who's been using drugs, somehow uncatholic?
My wife's been upset about it because it's ended up revealing some things I already knew about her son. Anyway, she's wanted me to do something as step dad but honestly I've been so angry at him I've just wanted him out of my sight. I haven't even been able to look at him cause I can't stand him anymore.
However, I told my wife the three of us would have a sit-down this week, where I plan to give him fair warning that if he screws up by any measure again, then he's gone. He's gonna have to move out, and where he goes is his problem, not mine. My obligation is to the health and safety of our little boys, both under three. My wife didn't think it was too harsh. So continuing with that I'd also ask him what his five year plan is, to which I fully expect him to play dumb and say he doesn't know and doesn't know what it is. Either way I'm gonna have to tell him to come back in a week and tell us what he's figured out because even if he quits drugs, he's an adult man and shouldn't be living with parents. His mom and I agree that joining the military, like the Air Force or maybe the Coast Guard would be ideal cause it would remedy his bone idleness. If he doesn't do that though we want him to pick some kind of technical training that he can pursue even if he thinks he doesn't or won't like it.
My question is, is kicking out an adult kid like this, one who's been using drugs, somehow uncatholic?
