Don't side track. Explain weeds and wheat!
God loves humans, no doubt. It's more or less like how we say we love applies, which automatically exludes the rotten ones. No one loves rotten apples. It boils down to when one becomes rotten in God's eyes, especially when He applies His foreknowledge. So we can't tell, only God knows at which point He would consider one is rotten. If God cares about the future of Israel, He can declare that Jacob He loves but Esau He hates. He can say so even before Esau's birth.
A good English psychology definition of Love and hate does not have hate the opposite of Love. Not having any concern for the other person is the opposite of Love. When you hate a person you still have deep feelings for that person.
If you really want to understand Biblical Godly type “hate” you need to look at verses like: Luke 14: 25 Large crowds were traveling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: 26 “If anyone comes to me and does not
hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple.
Hate is thinking much less of and is in comparison to our Love for God. We are to Love our parents, wife children but that love in comparison to our Love for God/Jesus is hate.
I am sure God hated the fact that He could not work with Esau, but that does not mean Esau was even hell bound.
So yes, God is our example of Loving those we hates the same as He would.
The question can be asked: "How can God send people to "hell", if God Loves them?"
The "problem" is not with "God's Love", but the child humbly accepting that Love as pure undeserved charity and thus obtaining Godly type Love for themselves (Luke 7).
The person going to hell (and/or annihilation) is still Loved by God, but since that person's earthly objective was to obtain and grow Godly type Love and the person has refused to accept God's Love to the point they would never humbly accept it, there is nothing more God can do to help that person fulfill their objective, so God will at least use them to help others fulfill their objective.
God does not send a child to hell out of His Love for them, but out of God's Love for other children, who can be helped with the example of the person going to hell and/or the existence of a hell.
Think about this: were there people encouraged to humbly accept God's Love/forgiveness sooner than later and thus be heaven bound, partly because hell was awaiting them in the state they were in. The prodigal son came to his senses and could look around and see where his choices had led him. He could stay in a hell on earth pigsty starving to death or further disturb his father with an undeserved request for some kind of life. If there is no pigsty in the sinner's future, will that sinner come to his/her senses and turn?
People are not apples.
