You seem to believe that lust is ok as long as you feed the homeless.
No, the two things have absolutely nothing to do with each other. Lust is simply a God given predisposition, that like anything else can be abused. Surprise, surprise. Like claiming to be celibate for gosh sakes, what the heck do we care. If its a choice that was made between you and God then keep it that way. But to proclaim it to us as if it somehow makes you holy, is to sully the whole point of making the vow in the first place. God may have cared, until you started waving it around like some banner of righteousness. It seems to me as if you've just gone from fixating on one thing (lust) to fixating on another thing (celibacy).
I realize that that's probably not the case, but that's just how it seems to me.
We love God with our mind, strength, soul and heart by obeying him.
And what did He command you to do, but to love thy neighbor. '
For whatsoever you do unto the least of these my brethren, you do unto me'. So loving God and loving your neighbor are inseparable. To do one is to do the other. So it seems pretty simple to me... love thy neighbor. If I was gonna preach about anything, that would probably be it, and I'd leave the whole judgment and condemnation thing to somebody else. There's a reason why Christ said that all the laws and all the prophets hang on those two commandments.
John teaches that lust is the sin. The lust of the flesh and eyes and pride is the sin. Why are you suggesting that it's not sin?
Sorry, but I have to disagree, you've fallen into a common misunderstanding of the text. John is writing to the church, and he's differentiating them from '
the world'. In this case '
the world" doesn't equate to absolutely everybody else. It equates to those who have fallen in love with the things of the world to such an extent that they've placed their entire sense of self-fulfillment in the acquiring those things.
For example, you can desire nice stuff. Like clothes, and iPhones, and new cars, but desiring stuff doesn't become a '
sin' until possessing it begins to take preference over everything else, such that your entire worldview becomes centered around 'getting stuff', and all other human aspirations for self-fulfillment fall by the wayside. And that includes loving God, and loving your neighbor. Up until then it's just the natural human proclivity to want stuff, and wanting stuff isn't a sin.
In the same manner 'lust' isn't a sin either. It's just that in our hyper-religious culture we've come to believe that any attraction to the opposite sex is sinful... and so we refer to it as "lust"

and we instinctively think of it as a transgression against God's will. But finding someone attractive isn't a sin, and wanting to be attractive to others isn't a sin either. It's just a natural part of being human.
Of course anything can become obsessive, but that doesn't mean that those things are a sin in and of themselves. It's only when we, with our all too susceptible human nature become enslaved by them that those things become sins. Oddly enough, it may even be a sin to obsess about finding sin